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writes:Hi, hope you can help. I need some suggestions on what to do. Next Saturday I am going on a date with this guy I met over a dating site. I really like him, we have been swapping emails over MSN, since early January. He had messaged me on the dating site early December but I had been distracted by my grandad's death, and I never replied. Into January I decided to go back on the dating site, and I read his email again, mainly because I remembered I had been rude in not replying, whatever state I was in. Courtesy is my middle name :) So I sent him an email back and from then we got on really well. In fact after my worse luck with my last date in September, I had decided that I didn't want a boyfriend, but he attraced me more than any of the other guys had. Now on the 2nd of February, he sent me an email saying he wanted to go on a date for Valentine's day if I was agreeable. Now you might think me sad but I have never recieved a valentines card, let alone had a boyfriend long enough to celebrate it lol. In fact the longest relationship I had began the month after Valentines day!!!Anyway since I am such a novice, I am really struggling on deciding what to do for our date. He lives 50 miles away, the distance has been discussed and we have both agreed for now it is not a barrier. So I have decided that he should come up to me, but the problem is, where I live, I have no idea where a good place is to have our date or what to do. I live near Manchester so we could go there but unfortunately, I haven't a clue where to go there neither or how to even get there. Last time I went there I was to pick a relative up from Manchester Picadilly Train Station and let's just say after 40 minutes of going round in circles and her nearly freezing to death I finally made it lol.So if any of you have any ideas it would be greatly appreciated.And also, would it be too forward to get him a card and a present? Thanks very much! Anyway advice would be appreciated.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (10 February 2008):
The key is to feel comfortable. First dates are always stressful. How about trying to hook up at a coffee shop prior to Saturday where you frequent or know and have a relaxed chat and see if he has any ideas for Saturday. How about a movie and dinner. It can be as relaxing or as stressful as you want it to be. The key is to find the happy medium and if he is a genuine guy as he seems to be then he will be happy to be anywhere with you. I don't know Manchester as I am from Australia but my first date with my boyfriend was nerve racking because he is a policeman so he met him outside the police station and we went in the police car to a really beautiful coffee shop with the most beautiful view but I was so nervous sitting in the front I said I felt like confessing to a crime I didn't commit! This broke the ice and we laughed all the way to the coffee shop. So enough of me, meet in the day first, go out on Saturday where YOU feel comfortable ie It's all about you. You sound like me in that I can get lost driving around places I am familiar with especially if I am nervous about being on time or if I have a man that I fancy with me. Don't let it stress you drive to him and let him chose the location to take the stress off your mind and then you only have to stress about what to wear. I would get him a card but hide it in case he did not get you one. LOL. That's happened to me. Keep it simple and be comfortable and relax so you can be free to show this man your beauty and your worth. Good luck mate.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 Go see a movie that is always a good place to go on a date.
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