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writes:I've been dating since 16 (im 26 now). I've had a handful of bfs and I've been married. However I find bfs to be rare. I've been on more dates than I can count.that lead to a couple, handful or 1 date at most and nothing. It seems I'm always ms right now, Ms youre great and all but I chose someone else, ms bottom of the barrel Or I'm not the marrying type?I've met men from the internet - that could be why. I dont do one night stands, I'm flirty but I'm not dirty - making one comment in a blue moon ..thats jokingly dirty. I dont wear anything too revealing..a lil cleavage. I consider myself to be polite,sweet and lady like w/ sex appeal (in a relationship im super sexual and affectionate.. and maybe guys I date can feel/read that..)I have big lips and look exotic and it seems alot of guys automatically think sex when it comes to me/my lips.The last guy I dated was polite - didnt kiss me till 6 dates later..and he kept his hands to himself for the most part. Id like to find someone whos the same in that way.. a gentleman.I wish I could meet a decent guy and it just seems near impossible.Where are some places I can meet a decent guy..or are there certain sites that are really good?I dont know anyone that's had goodluck w/ dating sites. I dont go to school or go out much so..
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (21 November 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question my marriage didnt work out cos he decided that marriage wasnt for him. he wanted to do whatever he wanted, didnt want to answer to anybody - stay out late and be as immature as possible (too bad he didnt realize that sooner). My ex - mr 6 dates..slow process.(Fyi I didnt like the fact he waited to kiss me 6 dates in..but I think once that started everything was like an avalanche)Im not sure why it ended. It was great and then all kinds of crap was wrong in his life at the end (financial etc) & I became another thing to stress about. So we broke up.I guess I date/been married to guys that are fickle? I dont see the fickle-ness right away..I try not to repeat mistakes though. I guess ill just have to get out there more...er "Shop" more. Thanks for responding.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 What went wrong with the marriage? You mention it as if marriage is just another form of a first date.
The last guy you dated didn't kiss you till 6 days later, apparently you like that (I would say that is a bit to much respect, coming dangerously close to "is he gay") but what happened? Since you are asking for dating advice, I presume you no longer are dating him?
The problem doesn't seem to be with you meeting guys, but something goes wrong during the dating process? What goes wrong, who ends the dating ritual? Why?
As for meeting men, approach it like a fisher-woman. You don't just go to a place with a load of fish and throw in a stick of dynamite and grab the first fish that floats to the top.
You determine first of all, what is the fish you want to catch? Then you ask, where does that fish hang out. Then, what lure does it respond to and how do you go about reeling it in once it has been hooked?
Take the classic example of going to the gym to meet people. There are three kind of gym's.
Meat-markets: People go here to pick others up, great for one night stands but nobody is there for relatioships longer then an erection.
Training: Serious places where body builders and such hang out.
Light exercise: Office workers go here to get at least some activity in their day, the prime motivation here is to have a decent time, loose some pounds, maybe talk to some people.
Depending on what kind of guy/girl you want to catch, you got to pick the right gym. Same goes with everything else.
Sure, you could go to dance class, just accept that ballet might not be the best place to build a hairy masculine man.
As for websites... well... it seems to be good business but anyone of them worked really well, why are there so many different ones? It is also in my mind way to easy to pretend to be someone else, to lie about your real interests.
Anyway, I would first of all examine what went wrong before, else you might just end up repeating the same mistake over and over, no matter how good your hunting spot.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (21 November 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats a good point - thanks :)
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