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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My (ex) boyfriend ended our long term relationship back in the summer of 2014, and I've been single since. He was the first actual relationship I've had, and I met him back in college. Well, now I don't really know where to go and meet men and start dating again. I'm quite shy and don't really like to just approach random guys as I fear they could be in a relationship or just might reject me and then I would feel kind of weird. I really don't like the dating sites as I watched a good friend of mine have so many problems with men from there as some of them can be creepy and they're most likely talking to a lot of other women and may not be the loyal type. I also have been advised to go out to the bar or clubs as there are a lot of people my age there, but I don't know if this is a good idea? I don't really want to be dating a man who drinks and parties a lot. Just not really sure what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2015): I am surprised you ask this question because normally men do the chasing, all that women have to do is sit and wait. Nonetheless don't isolate yourself. Go out where you enjoy and like to be. I am sure you will meet the right person before long.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (31 December 2015):
A lot of great guys feel just like you do...not wanting to feel foolish by approaching a woman and then getting shut down because she's married or whatever. It will certainly help to keep that in mind during your search for the right guy.I'm with you...I wouldn't want to go on-line (which I have done, with no good results) or go to a bar or club (I probably wouldn't find my type there).Get involved with your community and help out there. That's where the thinkers and doers are more likely to be found. Evening classes are another good place to find people who are smart and curious about life. Does your community have a non-profit television station run by volunteers? That's a great place to meet people as much of the programming consists of interviews with high achievers. As a bonus, you'll get television-production experience and it may send you on to a new career. That's exactly what happened to me...I did my volunteer non-paid time at the local station and then went to school to learn more. I'm now a full-time producer and director, just a fantastic job.Just remember my first sentence. Guys are shy, too, and you should help him out by opening up once he shows interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2015): Parks, work, church, volunteering, gym, or ask your female friends to set you up with the kind of guy you're looking for.
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