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writes:After a few bad relationships, I've decided to start going out again. I'm a single dude, age 24. I'm going out to clubs and bars to get myself out there. I see a few single girls there, but people advised me to stay away from those girls (STDS). I'm going for some volunteering activities as well trying to meet new people (especially ladies). Internet dating hasn't worked for me. I'm thinking I should just ask random girls out downtown (it's a numbers game). But I'm wary on that. I finished college two years back, and I regret not finding a girl. I know there are girls like me out there. But the challenge is where to find them. Reply to this Question
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Try internet dating. :o) It can really work. it;s a numbers game - just keep going and look at it as a 'project' good luck!! Natxx
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reader, rivi +, writes (1 August 2010):
Have you tried organized singles holidays ?
Do you like youth hostelling ? In US or abroad they are good places to meet the opposite sex. And the same sex for that matter. Atmosphere is much more conducive to introducing yourself to others than it is in a hotel.
You don't say anything about yourself : what work you do / leisure activities / college degree subjects......
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Not to sound smug, but I get asked out everywhere, and I value the inivtations in areas that are within my lifestyle and interests.
The reasons clubs are a bad idea are because they exploit only the sexual and aesthetic side of women, particularly the out-of-control alcohol-enhanced version, which in the final analysis doesn't make a great life partner to share your soul and children with, as I'm sure you've deduced.
Ultimately happiness with a woman is because you both share congruent values. Hence, meet women in environments conducive to your values. Frequent all the activities that you want to take into your retirement, whether that is boating, or education, religion, outdoors, certain athletics, whatever it is, put together a rigorous schedule of what you like, get out there, and while you're doing it, give a friendly hello to every single female around you. A genuine, natural, confident hello. If it's female, say hello. I promise you'll do great.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 My favourite places to meet people are at clubs. E.g. you like books join a book club. You like cooking, take a cooking class etc. It's a slow way to start but you are guaranteed to meet someone you have something in common with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Just do things you like to do. If you like to watch sports, then go to some football or basketball games. Eventually you'll meet someone.
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