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anonymous
writes:Alright I'm pretty sure this is said quite a bit but here goes...I'm an attractive guy I'm told quite a bit all through high school and middle school. I am always called and sent messages on my phone and facebook about my lady friends wanting to hang out and party with me. It's just whenever I want to have a relationship it never works out I am 20 years old a virgin which I have no problem with being I'd rather save it until marriage. It's just I want to be with someone who I can pour my heart out to. It's just after our dates and times hanging out the ones I really enjoy my time with and would enjoy sharing my feelings with they seem uninterested after all of it. I know I may not say much but I am a funny outgoing person at times. I'm just tired of being single and short lived relationships.
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reader, chita22  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Most girls love a guy who's hard to get and u spilling of your life to them makes to easy they want to work hard to get to know u we don't like anything easy we usualy want a guy we think we could fix I'm not saying be a real bad boy but act like u u don't give a damn about them I bet u they will start thinking your misteriouse and try hard to get into your head trust me on that no girl wants a realy nice guy she wants a badboy w/alil bit of romance to come w/it. I hope this all make sense to u
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I have to say anon has a point, you could be picking the wrong type of girl. I can't tell you what you're doing wrong because you haven't given enough info. Some examples?? Are these women that you go out with placing you in the friend zone??
Rarely disagree with chigirl but if you do pour heart out it may freak them out. On the first date, and my date is pouring out all these emotions? Woah dude, I just met you let's kick it down a notch. Rather overwhelming for your date. They only thing I can think of is you have lack of physical contact, you aren't holding their hand, goodnight kiss, and you maybe not calling within that 3 day window men are required to call. Or maybe you just struggle with communication all together, maybe your way too reserved. Open up a bit, but not to the point of where your complaining of your short lived relationships..
More importantly find out what you want in a girl, and don't stray from that type.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Maybe you should take a chance and just pour out your heart and then see if they are still uninterested? Sometimes it can be hard to judge how a person will react before you have done anything.
Give it a shot and see how it works. Maybe they are uninterested because you are holding everything back? Something I like to think is that you wont ever find someone who will love you for who you are until you dare to be who you are and do the things you want to do.
So, pour your heart out and see what happens. Because it is what you want to do, and you will never know if you find someone compatible with you unless you do what you want to do 100% of the time. So don't hold back. If you want someone who can handle honesty, be honest with them from the start. If you want someone you can pour your heart to, do so from the start.
Certain things build themselves up in a relationship, but staying true to who you are and what you want from the very beginning will help you out a lot.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (14 October 2010):
Mainly those girls are also trying to sort out their lives as well. At 20 years, you should more concern about a good job, and being able to provide for that special someone you want to pour your heart out to. Last thing you want to be pouring out is how much bills you have and can't pay them.
The right girl will come when your life is ready the handle one. Becareful what you ask for before it's time...You might regret it.
Save that viginity for the right girl, not just a one night stand. This site is full of people having problem with their wife or girlfriends...Don't be in a rush to join them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Short relationships are often because of mismatching. I've used online dating (yea, sounds kinda stupid at first) just as an experiment and I've met some girls that were literally the female version of myself.
You're over 18 so you should give it a try. You can do it free on most sites until they find a match before you have to pay.
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