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male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:So ive met this girl little over a year ago however we've only really gotten close these past 4 or 5 months. This girl is the best friend ive ever had, we always take each others advice on relationships and we can trust each other with anything. I spent all summer away from her though and we missed each other a lot the whole time and now that im back I discover that shes newly single. Whenever I try to make a move without admitting that ive actually started to fall for her, she subtly reminds me that were just friends. It wudnt be the end of the world if it stayed that way but do I pursue more from her or do I just go with the flow?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2014):
 Honeypie has it correct.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 September 2014):
 If she KEEPS reminding you that the two of you are friend, then THAT is all you are. FRIENDS. And you have to respect that.
If you can't be friend WITH her due to your feelings then walk away, don't keep trying to CRAM something down her throat because YOU want it to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2014): Take the challenge.
Sometimes the most beautiful love story starts with a friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2014): When a young lady reminds you that you're just friends, you respect that boundary and behave yourself. She should only have to tell you once. If you listen, that's showing her respect. It's up to her to change her mind, not for you to try and change it for her. Never touch her without her permission, and if she says don't...stop!
If it was the other way around; when the young lady is hitting on a young man who only wants to remain friends. She should do the same. Respect the boundaries of friendship, and be respectful. It becomes awkward, and they may just decide to end the friendship altogether.
You have to maintain self-control, and teach yourself that you can't always have what you want; or, make people care differently than they want to.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (2 September 2014):
 Leave it be. She doesn't want more than friends and if she has to keep reminding you, you'll lose even that.
Friends only.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2014): It sounds like she doesn't like you like that and can tell when you're about to admit your feelings so restates that you're friends. Sorry mate.
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