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writes:My wife is actively searching for a new exciting relationship with men, so she said to me. She denies looking for sex or having ever cheated in the past. I honestly believe she has not cheated. She is a sexy young women who attracts alot of attention. Anybody have experience in terms of "how long this will take to explode."? How much time do I have?And no, I'm not happy. Very, very sad about it. Reply to this Question
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reader, johnny123 +, writes (20 October 2009):
johnny123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx, gotta step back and get perspective
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (19 October 2009):
 WHAT'S THERE TO UNDERSTAND OR LISTEN TOO?
Timer for some reality here, Johnny
Uh...I think its a foregone conclusion that she has checked out on the marriage. If she is telling you this, she is bracing you for the day when some guy comes to the front door to pick your wife up right in front of you for a weekend in the Hamptons....lol Come on dude MAN UP!
I suggest you see a lawyer and begin to secure your finances. All the begging and pleading or the limp noodle listening tour is going to fall on deaf ears
someone who tells you they are actively seeking new relationships is bound to cheat on you if she hasn't already. My best guess is that she has and is. No one comes out like that to you if they have any fear of any consequences. She has no fear of consequences, and has no love for you whatsoever
don't give her time to arrive at some decision, make it for her. MAKE SOME CONSEQUENCES AND GET YOUR MANHOOD BACK!
Get rid of her, or I guarantee you that you will be back here in 6 months bemoaning the fact that your wife is cheating on you and you don't know what to do. The scenario that I mentioned about the weekend in the Hamptons is no joke. At the rate this is going that will happen sooner rather than later.
sorry, Im not trying to be mean...Im trying to cajole you to get your pills back! Im just telling you what is likely to happen. Kick her to the curb now. Yeah it will hurt, but the pain of having the name DOORMAT etched across your forehead for the rest of your life is a lot more painful.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2009):
Not long. She's warned you about it, which means she wants you to do something to stop her. This is a clear moment where you need to sit her down and ask why she feels this way. Don't waste time. And really listen to her. She might say some things that will hurt, but if she's admitting to you that she's looking for other guys, it could be that she wants you to be more exciting. Talk to her, really listen to her. If, after talking and after trying, she decides that she still wants to find another guy, then you'll have to move on. But at the moment, really spend time trying to understand why she feels this way. Good luck.
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