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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please help! My sister who is my half sister treats me like dirt. She is close to our other sister is my full sister her half sister so well.I have always been there for her even through her divorce plus helped with her kids when asked. When I got married she didnt come or send a card, gift nothing. Cut to all birthdays and the biggest moment of my life the birth of my son she sent a small gift from the dollar store. She has tons of money so money isnt an issue its the lack of love. she has never thanked me for taking such good care of her kids or for caring for our father who has had health issues. I asked her why and she said I owe her because our dad wasnt in her life so we owe her for all lost holidays to pay her back for his absence I was shocked that has nothing to do with me why is she punishing me and only me? I am the youngest and the one who tries to keep everyone together but I cant because she will always punish me for my dad behavior.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 May 2012):
She won't ever stop. Why would she? It's like the relationship that my mother has with her mother (my grandmother). My grandmother just got a kick of out treating my mother badly - so my mother cut contact. Hence, problem went away.
The point is, your half sister clearly has major issues in her head, and rather than dealing with them, she's just using you.
I know it may sound hard, but perhaps your best bet is to just get rid of this person and focus on your own children. You don't want your kids seeing your treated badly - they'll start to believe that it's normal, or they themselves will become like her.
More to the point, stop torturing yourself. You're trying so hard to make all this work that you're wrecking your own time with your kids, and hurting yourself.
Your half sister is toxic, mentally ill, a Drama Queen and hugely unsuitable to have around you and your children. So perhaps it's time to move her out of your life so you can get on with it.
It's either that, or you'll spend the rest of your life being treated like dirt.
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