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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for like a year. When we first got together I quit smoking for her because she said she would never date a smoker but we broke up for a couple weeks, when we got back together I had started smoking again, I just kinda kept it discreet. It's been a year and she still doesn't know. I know she will find out eventually and it will be worse unless I tell her but I'm scared 2 tell her cause it will just hurt her and I can't just stop because I'm basically addicted. I love her so much and I just don't want to do anything to hurt her. Any ideas?
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (11 August 2007):
 When you start to deceive people you love, and you feel like it's a deception in your heart, then I suggest you deal with it. Otherwise, you will not be giving yourself completely to the relationship. Especially something like this, where you are deceiving her at least once a day. What is the next deception you keep from her and get exhilarated about. She must know you smoke anyways, anyone I've ever kissed that smoked I could tell they were a smoker. She must know anyways, so what is the hurt in telling her. If she finds out, then the deception and trusting you is more the issue. That breaking of a trust will hurt more if she finds out than if you come clean. You didn't sleep with someone, you just started smoking again.
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