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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Basically theres a guy I fell in love with years ago, when we finally got together it wasn't a proper relationship, I'm not the most confident person and neither is he, not with me anyway. With other girls and relationships he fine but with me he wasn't.Everyone said it was because he seemed scared, afterall hes admitted in conversation in the past its easier if your not friends with them first, which we are.However it ended as he found someone else he liked, I wont go into detail but his actions definately showed he was scared with me, as hes always been shy as a friend as well. Thing is he's got a new gf and its killing me. Hes one of these people that if someones hurt him he will just carry on etc or if something in life fails he will let it go and move on. And thats clearly what hes doing, moving on. Although I don't see how his feelings for me have just disappeared. I know I can't split him and his gf up and I'd never ever dream of it, but if theres any chance he was scared I wanna try n at least do something to bring some confidence to us in the hope we will get back together. If not that, just as friends. He knows how I feel he always has since day 1 but I just need to make us more confident and do more things together, however meeting up with him never seems to be the easiest task either.But in all honesty is there any chance of him coming back? They weren't feelings that just developed they were there for years but if hes trying to move on then I don't see any hope, but in another sense I just want to try and make us better to see if anything happens. I feel like its ruined and all because it wasn't very easy and had too much background to it. I want to attempt to change things. I wudnt come between them but there must be something I could do, if not now, if/when they split up. What can I do?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (11 August 2012):
Leave them be. You mightn’t want to come between them but you would probably end up doing so anyway. You could spend ages hoping for something that might never happen, something that it seems will never happen. I suggest you leave them alone and try to move on yourself. For some reason it just didn’t work out between the 2 of you, he’s moved on and you need to try and do the same.
I wish you all the very best.
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