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anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like he doesn't put any effort into our relationship. First off, we have a long distance relationship, we only see each other once or twice a week (I'll spend the night at his place once a week). He doesn't see it necessary to let me know what's going on.First, about a month ago, I called him one night, and he didn't answer all night, so I figured, okay he's out with his friends..then the next night I call and he doesn't answer until midnight, and he said he'd been working all day. I believe him on that part, because his job does require him late nights sometimes, but why couldn't he let me know before hand so I didn't worry?And then, a few weeks after that, he was coming to pick me up, he said he'd be there at noon. He never showed. I had no idea where he was, and at around 630 pm, I called his ex girlfriend, who his the mother to his child, and she told me that his car died, and that he was going to church instead. When I talked to him later about it, he said he didn't even THINK to call me. How sweet.Then, yesterday he left to go to Texas, which is fine with me. His mother lives there and he's going to visit her while he's on vacation from work. I asked him to call me when he got in, so I didn't have to worry that anything went wrong. He didn't, naturally. He sent me a myspace message this morning saying he got in okay and that he was going to do something with his cousin later today. But I just don't see why he always puts me on the back burner.I feel like he doesn't think about me, or care about me enough to consider how I feel. When we are together things are great, but when we are apart, I feel like he treats me like a fling, but we've been together for almost two years, and he's told me he wants to marry me on more than one occasion. So why does he treat me like this?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2009):
He's treating you like that because that's what you are to him. forget about him and find a guy willing to spend more time on you and treat you like the Lady you are. There are better guys out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): he treats you like that because he is doing exactly what you said, he is putting you on a back burner.
your feelings are not too important too him, if he was really into you he would make the calls.
make yourself more distant, stop worrying about him, do things and do not inform him of what you are up too, if his interest doesnt increase then dump him and find someone who wants to be more involved in your life.
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