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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi all. I've been dating this girl for about a year now. I am 26 she's 18. She lives and goes to school in my town, but her hometown is about 40km away. Problem is this, as long as we are in the same city our relationship is doing just fine but every time she goes to her parents for more than a couple of days she is starting to act distant toward me. Not happy when I call, not calling me as much as usual etc. Finally two days ago I told her that I don't want to tolerate her behavior anymore and that we are going to break up if she continues to act like that. She said she is sorry and that she's going to improve in the next couple of days. Finally yesterday she send me an sms stating that it's better for us not to be together, she want's to be alone, to think about everything, loves me still but now it's in a bad mood and all that crap I have heard before from her. I said OK as u wish, and stop contacting her. Today she call me, send me some sms, small talk etc. My question is WHAT IS GOING ON? I repeat we do not have any problems when we are in the same town those things happen only when we are separated for more then a few days. Similar thing happened 6 months ago, we broke up, and then when she came back we made up on HER INSISTING.Any advice on this strange behaviour? And YES i do like her a lot.P.S. Sorry, my English is not perfect.
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reader, mz_lani1  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 All I can say is that, you just gotta sit back and observe more into her behavior more than you liking her. Just give it more time to observe. It's better that way, so when you really want to move forward with her, you'll realize that something was wrong. Be patient and test the waters for a few days, months, or years..Don't let this bother you anymore than it already has. Go out and have fun. Also, both of you need to communicate more than just texting. What relationship is build upon texting? You both need to communicate on the issue thoroughly, meaning - looking into each others eyes, hearing each others thoughts and feelings,etc. But most of all, pay attention on what's been said on both of your ends. Observe, Listen, and if it don't work out, then go on with life. You can't literally wait on her forever til' ur 68, you need to know a straight answer. Don't be mislead into something that ain't really there. Good luck and stay happy. She's not the only girl in the world. Go have fun..
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