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writes:I don't know how to handle this situation. My husband keeps me awake when he is upset. If I get angry after he wakes me up he turns the situation around and says I am mean to him. I don't understand why he does this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): Hi sweety,
I no how you feel my man bless him has insomia(if thats how you spell it) And sometimes im awake till 2 3 4am still chatting away, not funny when you have to be up in the morning and not stressed... If your husband is upset what is it that is wrong? Do you think he may need to see a counsellor to work through these problems for the both of you..
I think you need to talk with him as your probably suffering from sleep deprivation by now and that can lead to you getting ill so that wont help the pair of you...Have a good chat and try and advise him to see a doc to be referred if thats how it works where you are, The trouble he is having coming on at night time is quite usual as that is when the brain is supposed to rest and his isnt its working overtime so he is trying to talk it better... He must do this with a doctor to get to the bottom of the problem. And then you should both sleep easier.. And hunny your not mean just tired... TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXX
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reader, love-him  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 Im sorry but if ur husband is upset.. you need to find out why, you need to comfort him, imagin if it was u who was upset.. honestly.. gettin mad will only make the matter WORSE.. think about him for a change.. dont keep thinkin about ur beauty sleep.. there must be something wrong with him if he is constantly gettin upset and feels the need to have to wake u up.. i have problems, very serious problems, and if i wake up in the night upset i ring my boyfriend ( i am 16 and he is 20 ) he listens to my problems and tells me to calm down and it will all be ok in the morning and waits until i have fallen asleep then he hangs up.. that is love.. to me..
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reader, LauraE +, writes (6 July 2007):
You know that he is being unreasonable of course. I can well understand that your patience is wearing thin. The cod-psychologist in me wonders if he struggled to kick the habit of calling for his mum in the middle of the night when he was unhappy, and he is replaying that scenario without knowing that he is doing it. I wouldn’t mention that to him though. I think the only way to deal with this is to speak to him about it well before bed time, when he isn’t already upset about something. Tell him that of course you want to support and help him, but that the middle of the night is the worst possible time. You can’t help him or cope with the rest of your life if exhausted from lack of sleep. Agree to make a bargain. He must tell you about his worries earlier in the evening. You promise to give him your full attention then, to talk it through together. In return, he must leave you to have your sleep. If he is struggling to resist tapping you on the shoulder, he could get out of bed and do something quietly for a short while.
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