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writes: the moment i get close to a guy and realise they like me back, i start to dislike them and they begin to annoy me. i don't know why, it is starting to really aggrivate me, does anyone else get this? or know why? because i liked them before and it's not as if i get to know them and their actions/behaviour/something they did annoys me but just them in general and i like them less knowing they like me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Not everyone wants a healthy relationship. Maybe you just don't. Maybe you prefer the drama.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): i do the same thing its cause maybe you just like the challenge and once you get the guy you dont want him anymore
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reader, pamerjamer  +, writes (3 July 2011):
This sound very familiar. After my divorce in my early 30's, I would love the feeling of falling in love, yet when I had them and the excitemsnt was gone I would dum them. I had 3 men in a row tell me I could me the warmest most passionate erson the ever met, then i could turn cold on a dime. The first two I denied et after taking a look, I believe after being married I was not ready to get intimate with someone and I do not mean sex, i was afraid of getting hurt so I would hurt them before they hurt me. I had a friend that gave me some good feedback years ago. He told me to write down on a piece of paper ten qualities that I wanted in my future mate, so I wrote them down, then he looked at me and said,"are you able to return to the person all the things you expect of them?" What an eye opener, I looked at the list realized I was not ready to get serious. He told me one other thing. He said you are hurting some that really fell for you, date a person ten times before you become intimate (sexual) with them. The reason for that is did I really even like some of these I was dating. Sex changes things alot. I did that and I realized that friendship is one of the most important parts of my relationships. Also he said carry that list and when you are on a date mentally ask yourself does he have those qualities and most important are you ready to give those things to someone. Example of my list a few of the most important were: honest, responsible, sense of humor, passionate,able to express their feelings, I don't know if this will help you get some insight into yourself yet it sure helped me understand and than it enabled me to grow and change. Good Luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 It sounds like you get a kick out of being the one to chase a guy and then when you realise that he likes you back you feel the fun is gone and then that's why they start to annoy you. Maybe you get a thrill out of not knowing how things will turn out and then when you realise that they are interested you lose that wow factor and back off.
This could be your mind trying to tell you that you are just not ready for a relationship with a guy at the moment, obviously something is holding you back. Just pace yourself and go with the flow eventually when you are ready to commit to someone it will happen.
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