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writes:dear readers..this is a sex question. everyone has different opinions on the right age to have sex right? it all depends on your values as a person, ie religion, gender, family, friends, boyfriend, etc.. just what ever makes you, you.so i thought i would run a little survey you could say. its for people to say when they think is the right age to have sex. i want to hear all sides so dont be afraid to voice your opinion.also, what does everyone define as sex? is it intercourse? or is it just engaging in sexual activities? i am not confused about this stuff but its a large and diverse world and i think that hearing others opinions is what makes us develop as a person. after all if we did not have different views why would any of us be on here?kind regards, a girl that wants to keep learning. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): I belive that people should wait until they are 17 years old.
Sex is for me when my penis enters a woman hole(mouth, anus or vagina)so if a woman sucks a mans penis i don't consider her a virgin. For me sexual activities is fingering.
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reader, ilanah tromans  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 There isn't a 'right age' to having sex tbh, although the law says its illegal to have sex before 16, if you feel right with your boyfriend and he is like your bestfriend and yous have spoke about it enough about the consequences etc and you know for a fact they aint using you then its right for you to have sex, also make sure your parents wouldn't hit the roof if they found out speak to them about it first !
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): It is up to the law to define when you are old enough for sex. Not personal beliefs. Only after you have come of age in the eyes of the law can you sit down and wonder if you yourself feel ready or not based on any other reasons you may have.
I personally think you are ready for sex when you are mentally prepared to raise a child (after the age of concent of course). Sex is baby making after all, and you run the risk of pregnancy, so shouldn't do it unless you're mentally ready to become a parent. This doesn't mean you need to want a child or need to have everything ready and prepared, just have a mental awareness of it, a battle plan if a pregnancy should occur, knowledge of your body and how children are concieved, knowledge on sex and protection and STI's, and have thought through some of the important questions such as where do you stand when it comes to abortions. Abd also be able to talk to your partner about these things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): I highly doubt I'm going to wait until marriage.
However, I made a promise to myself awhile back that I would have to meet certain requirements.
1. I must be at least 17-18
2. I must be in love with the guy
3. The guy must love me back
4. I must be on birth control AND use a condom
5. We must have been together for at least 8 months
6. He must be someone that if I got pregnant, he would stand by me
Some might say thats alot to ask for, but honestly thats whats going to happen if I want to have sex. I'm okay with it, and my boyfriend will have to be too.
I define sex as intercourse. I don't think sexual activities count as losing your virginity.
Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): I don't think anyone can tell you when is the right age to have sex, but I'll give it a shot.
As a christian, I've always wanted to keep sex until I was married. But when I was 16, I started my first relationship. At this stage i hadn't even had my first kiss. When I was 18, I decided that it was the right time for ME (and my BF clearly) to lose our virginity to each other. We were (and still are) in a very close, loving relationship and friendship. I'm now 21, and have been with him for 5 years. I don't regret having sex with him, and I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. For me, it was right.
Sex is sexual intercourse - penetrative. I think oral and foreplay are sexual activities, but sex is when two peoples genitals are interacting - whether it's two people of opposite or the same sex. Whether a penis is entering a vagina or an anus, it's sex.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 When you are best friends with the person and you have formed a loving bond and both of you agree and have discussed the ramifications about what you are embarking on.
If you can not talk to your partner about sex-then the answer is "no sex for you."
As a girl, if you give yourself too freely to a guy/girl who promises you the moon and then doesn't, it creates a downhill spiral of your self esteem. Your goal then becomes to try to make someone love you and you confuse sex for love and it all gets bleary from then on.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Sex is something that I think one should wait until they're fully mature to handle the responsibility. What age would that be? Well I would definitely say over 18. With sex comes emotional attachment also known as Oxytocin. Which is a hormone in humans that creates an emotional bond with the individuals that had sex (this is more so in females than males). Not ready for that? Then don't have sex. There's also a risk of pregnancy/STD's if the sex is not carefully done.
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