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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi me and my best friend are both 22 years old and she is female. Thing is we see each other very often and at some weekends or when we are both off work we do stop over at each others houses and yes we do sleep together but obviously nothing happens and it never has. Now even our best friends find this weird as they all know I have always loved her and they all reckon she loves me but nothing is ever said and nothing ever happens between us at night except we do cuddle and stuff but we have always been very close. We are all close friends anyway but me and her have known each other the longest and have had the odd snog when we were at school but something else always came up that it didn't continue such as her cousin dying. We go on holiday together a lot as well and do both share a room and a bed. I can see why they find it weird but I suppose I do to some level if it wasn't me that was doing it. I'm going to hers tomorrow night after going out with my brother and his kids. We aren't going out, we are just going to have a few drinks I suppose and do what we normally do but I really want to tell her I love her as I really think she loves me too and everyone says it's obvious she's just a very shy person with these things. I was thinking of telling her when we go to bed so I can be close to her but I'm not too sure whether that would be an ideal time or place. Any ideas as to where or what to say? I know everyone says just say the 3 simple words I love you but it's not as easy as it sounds. I'm really nervous please help.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 July 2007):
 Saying 'I LOVE YOU' to someone really should not make you nervous.
There is no ideal time or place to say it, if thats what you really feel it really is that easy to come out and say it.
Why do you think it is not as easy as i sounds and why does it make you so nervous, is it because you are worried that you might not get the same responce back?
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): well if i was in your situation i would make sure you are 100% certain that she feels the same for you because if not it things could come out for the worst and your friendship could end. I know it must be hard because you say you love her, and the thought of rejection and humiliation is so cringeworthy but if you feel so strong about her then i say just go for it! you never know she could feel the same for you and it could be the best decison you have ever gone threw with!!! good luck!!xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): Don't tell her when you're in bed - that'd put a lot of pressure on her ... what if she didn't feel the same?Tell her before. Be genuine. Good luck.
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