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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm soo confused, I split up with my ex boyfriend last year in October we met on holiday and only lasted two month approximately. He was the person I lost my viginity to and I have loved him ever since and always think about him I'm not even close to getting over him, the thing is I'm getting more obbsesed with him if you like. I will be coming into some money some time shortly and would love to go and find him as he lives a few hours away and see if he has any feelings for me but the problem is he has a girlfriend and has been with her for ten months which makes it straight after we broke up, I know I shouldn't go to find him as it is clear he has moved on with his life but I can't help but know why we are no longer as he didn't give me a reason, he just ignored me. What should I do? I still cry over him at night and he is all I ever think about. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): I'm sorry dear but from what you say it seems this guy just took advantage of you and that's it for him. I know it's hard to give up someone you lost your virginity to but you chose to give it to some guy you didn't know well. You should see a therapist soon because this obsession it's just abnormal. You might not see it now but it's not normal that you are still mourning the loss of this person like this. You remind me of myself getting obsessed with guys at your age. Later I found out this obsession is due to a lack of self esteem. I understand you gave this guy something very important to you and you received rejection in return. I think maybe you should confront this guy to have some closure in your life, but not right now. Go to a therapist and get treated for the depression that you might have. And then and only then you should get in contact with this guy and tell him what you think. But don't expect to get back with him as he obviously has moved on a long time ago. Get professional help now! A lot of teenagers do.Good Luck.
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