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41-50,
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writes:hi, I have a problem on when to ask for sex with a new girl friend. They always say its early , but after so many financial demands from me; they will disappear. Am I not man enough? I do some times wait for up to six months but they tell me its early. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): It sounds to me like your being used, sorry - but I would definately not pay out any cash - bar the normal drinks or a meal type of thing for your next woman
If they care enough sex will be given naturally without thought for timescales - in a loving relationship
I would take a long hard look at how you are with women and what your approach to them is - be a prize to be won not a soft touch
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): First of all i dont think you should have to ask. I would think that after a month or two it would just happen. If they are making financial demands but making you wait for six months i would say they are just using you. When i met my now fiancee we did it within the first week of course we knew each other a while b4 that. But still. The first week is early. A month or two i think is normal. Six months? Unless shes a virgin or/and waitin for marriage thats much too long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): Stop politely asking and start going for it much earlier.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): You are going for the wrong girls and being used! Don't 'ask' for sex, initiate it when the time feels right with a girl you have a genuine connection with.You say 6 months is too early- I disagree, if you've been together 6 months then you should know by that time if you have feelings for that person or not and whether you want to take things further or not.You also said 'financial demands' which must mean the girls see you as a meal ticket, they see pound signs and see that your an easy target! Don't let that happen, let the using tramps be were they belong, no matter how pretty or how much of a good act they put on do not give in!My advice to you is do not in any way shape or form invest anything financial into the relationship until you feel steady and you know you arnt being used! No presents/expensive nights out(unless she pays towards it) and no 'financial demands'! Any girl who makes a financial demand in the short space of 6 months especially, is a user! Trust me my friend your picking the wrong girls!
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