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writes:When in a relationship is the right time to start becoming sexually active? And does an age difference from say 17-23 would make any difference? Reply to this Question
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reader, belle79  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Hi, there is no right or wrong time to become sexually active, it comes down to how comfortable you feel with the partner you are with at the time of your relationship. But remember never to feel pressured to go further for the sake of it, as this is a special time of a relationship.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (29 August 2007):
Its completely up to you and your parnter. What it comes down to is yours and his beleifs. Some people see it as ok to have sex at a young age, and when your not in a seriously commited relationship, some are very against that and think you should be older and in a serious relationship, while others go even further and say you should be as serious as in actually being married!
Personaly I would say wait till you are in a seriously commited relationship. But it is honestly hard to relaise when you are in one. Very often you can think you know someone sooooo well, but then later you find out you didnt know them at all. Thats why the longer you wait, the less regret you will have. If both people are seriously commited into the relationship, then waiting however long you need to feel sure about having sex shoudlnt become an issue. If it does then you can just assume that the motives for that person wanting to be in the relationship may not be the greatest.
There is no 'right or wrong' answer here...its just something you have to kind of work out yourself. But dont rush any decisions, think long and hard.
As for the age difference, I would say that would make a difference. At 17 you are veyr very young and Im not saying this is a authoritarian, sort of lookign down upon you way, cause I myself am only 18...Im saying it as a matter of fact. I know what its lke to sleep with someone when you are young and truly believe in your heart they love you and that you have a healhty relationship, only to finaly have sex with your partner after 12 months of being in a relationship and then be dumped because he finaly got what he wanted.
I used to think no guy would wait that long just use you for sex...but it happens suprisenly! So yes thats why I think its importnat to wait till you are a bit older, more wiser and have a better ability to be able to tell if someone is for real or not. Even as a adult you will probably find it hard, but you will have a better idea.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (29 August 2007):
 well my sister inlaw is 17 with a 21 year old and i dont see a problem with it but 17 and 23 is a bit much for me but thats just my opion its not too bad it would be better if you were 18 and he was 24 but age is just a number becareful though you may have differnt views and not share the same page but now as sexually active in a relationship its what you think is best but remember you have to live with who all you sleep with for the rest of your life,
if you think its right and your ready and you and this person both care for each other than use protection i cant tell you yes or no thats going to be your choice just make a good one and be careful
best of luck
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