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anonymous
writes:I've been seeing this guy I really like for about six weeks. We've known each other for years and it's the third summer in a row we've hooked up. This time, it feels more serious than ever before, and we've agreed to be exclusive and have a proper relationship. We live in different cities but I'm willing to make the effort so long as he is, and he seems devoted and honest and genuine. The problem is, I'm still insecure and uncertain about the situation, and it's making me act funny around him. I don't want to get too excited about our relationship if it's about to collapse, and yet I really like him and can't help but feel myself falling for him more and more. We both have another week of holiday together before we have to go back to our normal structured lives in seperate places. Should I embrace my romantic feelings and wear my heart on my sleeve or should I try to hold back and keep myself a little guarded in case things don't work out? I'm afraid I'll scare him off if I come on too strong, but at the same time, I'm an honest and open woman by nature and I like sharing my feelings and thoughts with him, and one of the strengths of our relationship is how comfortable and close we are with each other. But in the last few days or so, we've hit an emotional wall and it's a little strange between us. What should I say to him???
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reader, duce00  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 I havnt had experience with your perticular situation but I do understand about wearing your heart on your sleeve. Thats me too. It might be best to just be honest and let the chips fall where they may. I say this with caution because it could end up being hard if you dont get your feelings reciprocated. Its a tough life sometimes being an open and honest person but ask your self if you would really want to be any different. I know my answer. As Ive gotten older I've learned quite alot. Im just as open as I ever was, I just feel less insecure about weither I will be loved or liked because of it. Hope that little ramble helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): You are both going back to seperate places after the holiday. So if your not in the same town and it's just a summer thing you have each year, then yes I too would be guarded but if you really like him, tell him how you feel and see how it goes.
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