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writes:Ok, so this guy is 23 and I'm 17... I'm ok with it, and he's ok with it. My parents? yea no, they don't even know we're dating. What makes it worse? He lives about an hour and a 1/2 aways drive from where I live, and I always have to make excuses to go up to see him (which is if we're lucky, once a week at the most).Help? If anyone has had any similar experience to this and if they've learned anything or have any advice to share, that would help immensely. Especially in the telling the parents issue. My parents really don't like the idea of me dating older guys (from what I've managed to get out of them) since they don't talk to me seriously about relationships; and I think that's just because I'm not the type of person to date a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (29 August 2007):
How about just coming clean and being honest? Your parents will be a little pissed that you lied to them in the beginning about where you were going when you made your excuses, BUT... in the end, it will be better. Sit them down, tell them you like each other and offer for him to come to dinner so they can meet him and get a little more comfortable with him. Usually parents have pretty good character judgement, and although they don't want to see their little girl growing up, they have to come to the realization it's going to happen sooner then later. They will also think it's very adult of you for coming clean, and letting them meet your Romeo, rather then sneaking around like a 13yr old. Best of luck!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 well my mum takes it sort of ok when i tell her i like a girl who at the moment is 22 and im 17 my dad well lets just say 'no way he is too old all he wants is sex'. oh they want to do is look out for you and it may seem horrible but they have a right to worry or stop you seeing someone when your 18 they have no choice to let you do what you want. so tell them the truth they will find out soon, no doubt about it. so good luck and hope they will take it well. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): im 16 and my bf is 20 and well he lives 4 hrs from me my parents hate him and were so in love have been together since i was 15 and he was 19 im about to be 17 in days and he'll be 21 in a few months,well i frist told my parents about me and him because i cared for him and even asked if they wanted to meet him they thought he was too old and a prev. but i went to see him saying i was going to see my older sister which is how i met him thru a friend of mine that lives down there and well my mom got scared as my sis is a bad liar and called the police they caught us sleeping together so they thought anyways so my parents made me do a rape kit as the police said he raped me which he didnt and he went to jail for 3 months and got 3 years probation and has a felony and also lost hes job because of me but till this day he has not said it was my fault or left me he just keeps loving me more age isnt a problem but parents can be a pain so can the cali police but hope your parents take it better than mine ps. just use protection because i made a big mistake see my mother took away my birth control i cant use condoms they make me rash all over and well im 6 months preg. with hes baby and were getting married this month so we can live together for the baby and as my parents want me out
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