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writes:ok over the summer 06 i had a boyfriend and he kind of got serious and asked me so many ?s that i couldnt answer. I was 12 and now im 13 and i think i should answer them so heres the story:He asks me out and i say yes because i liked him and then like the day after he asks me "jenna will you marry me?" and i said I don't know, ill think but i wanted to say no but i didnt want him to break up with me. Then he asks so how many kids do you think we will have? I was thinking in my head was he the right guy for me because i was young and didnt kno wut to say, then a few days after i broke up with him. 2 reasons. 1: i wasnt ready for the questions he asked me 2: i found out he was cheating on me with my best friend Now he keeps asking me out and i think if i broke up with him shouldnt i ask him back out not him when it was my choice? and he always calls me asking me out or asking if any of my friends are single. help me i dont kno wut to say but i want to tell him that im not ready and i have a boyfriend and i told him i did and he still asks me out all the time and i think if it continues my boyfriend is goin to dump me but i really love my boyfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I a sure you really care for this bf but as the other Aunts have said, at 13..you or he shouldn't be thinking of marriage. That is so far off in your future, it's likely uimaginable for you and what a astute girl you are to recognize this. It sounds like your bf simply over romanticizing and really, really likes you back or he's just saying what he thinks, 'you want to hear' but doesn't mean it. I would just politely tell him, that both of you are a bit young to be thinking about marriage and babies. And leave it at that.
But this is an excellent learning experience for you. You are running into a problem a lot of grown up couples have and that is being scared to communicate true feelings, for fear of loss. Always, always be honest and open with the one you like, about your true feelings. If this boy respects you and your feelings, he will accept what you have to say. If he dumps you, then that should maybe tell you, he's not the right person for you. You want someone you can be totally yourself with-always expect that in a relationship, dear. Good luck, sweety
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I a sure you really care for this bf but as the other Aunts have said, at 13..you or he shouldn't be thinking of marriage. That is so far off in your future, it's likely uimaginable for you and what a astute girl you are to recognize this. It sounds like your bf simply over romanticizing and really, really likes you back or he's just saying what he thinks, 'you want to hear' but doesn't mean it. I would just politely tell him, that both of you are a bit young to be thinking about marriage and babies. And leave it at that.
But this is an excellent learning experience for you. You are running into a problem a lot of grown up couples have and that is being scared to communicate true feelings, for fear of loss. Always, always be honest and open with the one you like, about your true feelings. If this boy respects you and your feelings, he will accept what you have to say. If he dumps you, then that should maybe tell you, he's not the right person for you. You want someone you can be totally yourself with-always expect that in a relationship, dear. Good luck, sweety
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I'm a bit confused!!! You say that you are only 13 but where it says your name its says you are 16-17. So how old are you really? Regardless of your age what girl or guy didn't have a marriage proposal from there high school sweetheart. Honestly no one ever took it seriously and you shouldn't either. Your to young to even be thinking about getting married. Grow up 1st.
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Whoooo! slow down! your 13 years old, and yes you may have strong feelings for him and care for him alot, but there's no hurry, in getting married.
Enjoy the relationship you have with him, concentrate on your friends, school, family and having fun, you are only young once and have all the time in the world to settle down, whether it be with you currant boyfriend or with another guy. Enjoy your youth and make the most of it!
Good luck and take care!
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Right now you are only 13 years old (but he asked you to marry him when you were only 12) That is way to young for you to make any decisions on that order. You have your youth to explore with your friends and family...and not about getting married!
Just keep him as a boyfriend...and not any futher. You need to get alot older, live your life and be your own woman before making marriage decisions! You will probably have many beaus in your life before you decide to get married!!
I give you all the luck in the world...let me know how things turn out for you!
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