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writes:please help please .. I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore , we've been going out 3 years and im nearly 18 and he's turned 20 , he hardly talks to me , we used to talk everyday and now its not the same . I called him just before as I was crying because my dad is getting remarried and when he picked up he ddint know why I was crying , he asked me " why are u nagging me , why r u winging" I said well im upset , and he sounded preocupied , he said he was getting ready to go out and hed call later I said okay , but I msged saying don't worry . I feel so alone right now , I feel like he doesn't care anymore at al Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): BABY DUCK!he called me three days later and he could tel I was upset and angry, and he only talked to me for a min or two then said he was going to bed , I said fine whatever and he said " f**k off bye "wat should I do , I went to bedd and I've woken up feeling soo confused nd frustrated , I just want to get through to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): thankyou sooo much to the first 2 comments , well all actually ,I really appreciate it
I've tried talking to him time and time and it doesn't seem to work , im going to leave it for some time and go see him and try and talk to him to his face , if he still won't change im going to leave , why should I stick around and feel worse when he's suposed to make me feel better
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reader, PrincessTee  +, writes (1 May 2009):
This sounds like a classic male reaction to feelings from a guy who is clearly not mature and is very self obsessed!Mabye the reason hes acting like this is that hes unsetled by how commited your relationship is and the fact hes still young?Mabye hes getting an itch to be free and single with no emotional ties?
Take it from me i have had every upseting insensitive comments thrown at me!
Sometimes men dont pay enough attention to your feelings and mabye he doesnt realise this was a very upseting time for you and he underestimates how his comments hurt you!
You need to talk to him calmly and without getting upset and explain to him that your going through a ruff patch and you need his support and that the way he spoke to you on the fone made you feel worse!This conversation may end with you realising that he is not good enough for you and that you need to be with someone who loves and cares for you through all that life throws at you!
I wish you luck!I hope everything works out for the best with your BF and your dad!
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): It sounds like he isn't really interested in your relationship anymore, especially if he has been acting like this for a while now. But If he is only recently being like this, then it could be that he feels uncomfortable when you are upset, and doesn't know how to handle it. Hence the disappearing act. Some people aren't very good at being around people when they are upset.
But still, it is a bit insensitive of him. You are not alone though, even though you clearly feel like it. You found this site, so that's a start. You can always post more messages if you feel too bad, or if you feel you are having to struggle alone. Reaching out to people, whether to friends and family, or anonymously via this site, can be really comforting. Take care. x
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