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writes:HelloI am in the UK and my G\F is in NZ and I'm applying to move there. When I call long distance, sometimes she says she is watching one of her favourite shows and can I call back. I am pretty chilled so do not mind, but is this bordering on disrespect? My family think it is and say she should want to talk, bearing in mind the distance. She has not got someone else, she does just want to finish watching her shows. Disrespectful?Any thoughts
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): But God help a woman who wants to talk to her man when the big game is on...
What is the big bloody deal? Find out when her favourite shows are on and don't call during those times. She gets to watch her shows without being interrupted (as I'm sure you like to do certain things without being interrupted yourself) and you get her undivided attention when you talk. Is that really so difficult? Good lord. And they say women are the ones who make mountains out of molehills...
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Hey sweet,
While I think it is a little tacky to choose TV over a person, if she has just one or two absolute favorite shows that she tunes into every week, maybe you should give her a break and quit calling her when you know they're on. If she calls you back later and is happy to talk to you, and you otherwise have a fun, happy relationship - let her enjoy that one show that she tunes into every week. It's not a big deal. If you are just calling to chit chat, it can wait an extra half hour.
Again, I don't condone choosing the TV over a person, but this seems like such an easy problem to fix. And hey, I have an absolute favorite television show myself and my Boyfriend knows better than to call me from 8pm-9pm Wednesday night unless it is important!! Haha. I do him the same courtesy when he's watching "American Gladiators" (men.).
So, if this is a once a week ordeal, have her make it clear what time she watches that show she loves and make that the one hour you don't call.
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): It's not bordering on disrespect, it is TOTALLY disrespectful. Disgraceful and so very rude too. What's the big deal about a lousy tv show compared with talking to your loved one halfway round the world? I would be questioning just how strong her love really is.As you can tell, I hate bad manners, often the result of bad upbringing, especially from one who is supposed to be my girl. I would put things to the test: Next time it happens, apologise and say you'll leave it up to her to phone in future as you seem to always get it wrong, then hang up - and stick to what you say. But then that's just me.Good luck.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Give her a DVR?
Some people take their tv serious and nothing is more annoying then being called when you are doing something else. God knows I hate the phone, not because of TV but if I am busy it always interrupts.
Should she stop watching because you call? Yes and no, depends frankly on how often you call and how often it is during a program she watches.
I wouldn't so much call it a matter of respect but how much she cares. If you make a very long distance call, synced for the time difference and she prefers to watch her soap then obviously she either cares for her tv a lot or just not very much about you.
Simple rememdy, do not call. Let her call and then say you are busy. Sometimes we just need a dose of our own medicine to show us how our behavior looks to others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Oh my got I can't believe the person that posted a comment first saying that YOU are the out of order one! "sister" I thought you were joking at first. Jesus.It's just a TV programmes, how selfish. He lives in a different bloody country - what do you want him to have a tv guide so he knows what times to avoid?!?!I think thats completely ridiculous that you should work your conversations around her mundane tv watching.If she actually gave a s*** about you she would turn the bloody tv off and talk to you when you call!!I think its totally selfish. My boyfriend lives away from me as well at the moment due to his work and when he phones me, I dont turn round and go ohh just got to finish watching bollocks on tv before i actually give a damn about you.Thats so rude. relationships are about giving, taking and communication. Not fitting around someone elses pathetic life.phone dates? pfft. i dont think so, that would be her fitting you into her oh so busy schedule.Yeah i think its damn disrespectful and people who say it isn't are god damn selfish women!!
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