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writes:i live with my boyfriend for the past two years but any time i ask for sex he says no with the reason that he is either sick or tied but if he ask i dont dont hesisted to give it out because i luv and dont wat him to go out and have sex with someone else.so please advice me on what to do should always force to it or i should also denied him anytime he ask for it? Reply to this Question
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
He refuses you sex, Im sorry But what man would find the need to refuse the woman he loves sex but take it when he needs it!!! And you are worried he may go off with someone else if you dont let him....This guy needs a serious kick up the arse for treating you this way, I wouldnt put up with that crap... (sorry hun I'll calm down) Ive been there and it is the most awfull place to be....It makes your self esteem hit rock bottom because the one you love is not wanting to make love with you, It makes you feel undesirable and as you said your worried he may go off with someone it traps you....You need to stop this vicious circle now!!!!!!!!Its hard I no and I understand you fear, But at the end of the day do you want to end up with someone who is making you feel like this or maybe the chance that this same guy that is treating you like this will leave.....What have you got to loose really? Your not happy all the emotion that you are feeling at the monent are normal but you need to talk with him about them , If you havent already as this is not going to go away...Dont give him sex...If he goes off with someone else rather than sort this out with you then he isnt worth it and he does not deserve you....If you can talk and he can understand then there hopefully will be changes made if he loves you and you will then start to get your self esteem back....But hunny I was In the same situation and It came to the point in my life that I though well you can just go anyway I dont want you....Then he wanted me...But it had gone to far and Id tryed to talk I had done everything I could but he took some delight in turning me away and it finally payed off as I didnt have the same feelings anymore...Think about you how this is affecting you and if he cant talk to you about this then think about your futour and your confidence and how this if it carrys on is going to affect that more and more.....If you need a chat message me anytime, And never forget that you are a beautiful woman who should be treated with respect and understanding and not made to feel like this and you are worth so much more than at the moment you probably know.....
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
Here is a link to help your self esteem hunny, PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH MUCH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (3 June 2008):
 There can be many potential reasons, for example:
Lack of sex or lack of sex drive can be a symptom of ill-health. Not sure of the full situation, but is he prone to loads of coughs colds. Worse still a sufferer of a chronic illness? Or be at the starts of an illness and he doesn't know it yet. Has he been feeling run down?
You don't even have to be majorly ill one day, just feeling a little low to not be in the mood.
Otherwise he could be tired and want an early night because he has to be up early for work the next day?
It this is the case, then you are more likely to have sex at the weekends for example.
Compromise is the key, and working out the situation, in accordance with my above examples.
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