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writes:I don't think I'm alone, but why is it sex to me often seems like the great equalizer? I've been with women who have long and varied sexual histories and it's never bothered me. But on the few occasions when I was with a woman who I cared about, who I had feelings for, who I loved, why is it if she's had a longer sexual past than I have had do I let it eat away at me to the point of complete insecurity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): I don't agree about insecurity. That is usually part of it but not nearly all of it.
It's sort of like if your wife cheated on you. Would insecurity over the other guy's sexual performance be the only problem with this?
Men are built to want inexperienced women. It's natural and it makes perfect biological sense. We can't reason our way out of it any more than we can reason our way out of liking physically attractive women.
We're just living in a time that prefers to deny mens natural feelings and blame them when they show up. Our feelings pose a problem in this case and being male is already politically incorrect just by definition.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 Because you are insecure. You would prefer a virgin because then you wouldn't have to compete with all the other guys. But since virgins are rare, the next best thing is a girl with less experience because then at least she won't be better at being a player then you.
It makes you a bit of a hypocrit, you had no problem giving other women you admit not caring about a sexual past, but are basically upset that other guys did the same thing to a girl you care about.
Time for some self-reflection.
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