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30-35,
*bcdefghi
writes:Hello x Me and my boyfriend has been together 2 and a half years, in the first 6 months everyhing was fine until his 21 year old sister (I'm 18 and he's 19 by the way) started butting in our relationship and spreading a lot of lies about me to her family, all the family strted disliking me and I had done absolutely nothing wrong she was just jealous and horrible xx so it made tension for me and my boyfriend and we started argueing, I started accusing him of looking at other girls and I got very insecure. At first he just told me to stop accusing, but because I worry a lot I carried on, and with the difficulty and stress of his family I became worse. Now he's really mean, he does randomly say to me I'm a total waste of his time, he ignores phone calls when I ring him, AND he slams the phone down on me, he has no problems or shame about telling me to fuck off, or to piss off because I'm a pathetic bitch, slag, cu-t, everything bad. But when we have our good days he's the best boy in the world. We go camping through the summer, always out for meals, he always picks me up from work and he can be amazing. Please help me xxxx
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reader, abcdefghi +, writes (10 December 2010):
abcdefghi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks xxx I always talk to him about it, always and your right it starts another argument :-( we both love each other though because he rang me this Morning saying put everyhig behind usand he swore on my life he wants to be with me forever, :-S xxxx
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 It may seem random but it isn't. Thoughts might have been triggered that led to him thinking malevolently about you. Talk to him and ask him why he is so cruel to you when you have done nothing wrong. Do not complain, talk gently, talk calmly and show him that you all you want is for the two of you to always have the best in this relationship. Talk to him about why he feels as though he needs to hurt you and abuse you like this.
He might not come up with an answer, the whole conversation might even lead to an argument and if it does, just stop talking and give yourselves a chance to calm down before talking about it again. If he does not have an answer for you, I suggest you bring up the possibility of a break just to clear your thoughts.
I hope that helps.
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