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writes: I'm.17yrs old.hes..20 I knew him b4 he went to the army hes been in the army for a Year/half now. We've been inGaged for 9months.*Long Distance is harder than I thought.I just dont understand. When were together we dont argue but when he leaves we argue alot more.He thinks I'm always accusing him of doin wrong and that I dont ever do anything wrong when I know I have done wrong? How can I maybe work somthen out to stop all this arguing and him thinkin im attacking him and blaiming him ..I would like to work threw this instead of runnin from it like I have done in the past.so if anybody has any comments. on this long distance relationship fill free to Speak ur Opinion~ty~
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 January 2006):
Hello,
Wow, I must say, thats weird, my bf is 20 and im 17 too! And he is in the army! Lol how weird and coinsidently, we have started with a long distance relationship.
It seems to me you are very much commited to this relationship, as you are willing to work thorugh it! And you know what with that mind set and dettermination, your half way there!
Its true, long distance does put ALOT of stress on people in relationships, even married couples find it very tough.
So let me get this straight, he is upset as he feels you accuse him of cheating on him? But you don't think you are giving him that impression?
So would it be fair to say there is lakc of trust in this relationship? Having trust in a long distance relationship is hard!
First thing to do is find out why (by asking him) he feels that way. What is it that you perhaps done to give him that idea? Then you have to think about what it is that has given him the feeling that u r blaming him. From there, perhaps you should change yoru actions, so it dosnt upset him as much.
Also it seems like he must carry alot of guilt, as he is the one going away and must feel like its his fault and therefor assumes you are blaming him to, for why this relationship might not be as great as it could be. Let him know u dont blame him that he has to go away, its his job.
The importnat thing in any long distance relationship is communication. Tell each other how u feel - good or bad.
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