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writes: Hi im am 16 and have lost most of my friends because my boyfriend is very overprotective! What can i do to stop him from being like this and getting my friendships back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (12 January 2006):
 I don't know how old your boyfriend is but if he isn't much older than you then it is far too young to be so overprotective and insecure.
Perhaps the best thing to do is be firm with your boyfriend. Explain to him that you intend to talk to some of your old friends again and that you wish to spend time with them and other new friends. Reassure him that you can be trusted and that he has absolutely nothing to be afraid of. Make it clear to him that you need to have your friends and that if he does intend to get in the way of that then your relationship won't last.
You can give him heaps of reassurances and affection but be aware that if he still plays up that it could be time to think about not being with him anymore as you are very young to be held back like this.
You could suggest to him to try and get some help for his problems with insecurity as there is obviously a reason for him feeling so threatened like this and you could also let him know that you would be there for him but do think about your own life and the effect he can have on it if he refuses to see he has a problem.
I hope this helps.
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