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When he blows up, it's so much hard work to get him to lighten up and accept that a lot of the problems are the ones he's causing.

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Question - (3 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend is so gorgeous to look at, absolutely stunning, so I was gobsmacked when we got together. After a few months together I have realised that he is always always right. We fall out over the most ridiculous things and until I apologise he doesn't want to know, even if it's him that is being unreasonable. He won't talk to 3 of my friends as he thinks that they are interfering and tells me I need to look at the way I behave and accpet my faults before we can move on. It's weird, he cuddles me, tells me he loves me, sex is fantastic (though mainly anal). But when he blows up, it's so much hard work to get him to lighten up and accept that a lot of the problems are the ones he's causing. Am I wasting my time?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntDo me a favor and google narcissist.. he is one.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009):

Sounds like a controller to me. No way can you be wrong all the time. Ask yourself what you want in the relationship. Looks are good but can't buy happiness.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009):

Thank you.

His issues are from the past, he doesnt talk to his mother and feels like he was neglected growing up. He doesnt like my friends becausde they disaprove of his behaviour towards me and it has dented his ego, so he says he doesnt need them in his life and they are nothing to him and if I lived him then I would understand and accept it. He says I dont respect him. He doesnt like it when we go out and I have lots of attention off my friends (I have lots of friends). He constantly tells me I need to grow up, take responsibility and stop acting like an idiot. I am a likeable person and never fall out with anyone. He is just so hard to please. Yet he says he loves me to death.

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