When do you stop listening to your heart?

A female age 41-50, *e81 writes:

When should you stop listen to your heart?... I've fell for someone who I really don't know if was honest with me at least once!... I knew he wasn't giving me what I wanted (a relationship) and I kept seeing him, we were in a relationship for 3 months but lasted as friends with benefits for 1 year and 1/2... I tried to see and date other guys but never felt what i felt with him, it totally sucked! he did a lort of things that made me think twice about giving him a chance, but it always end up in dissapointment... long story short, from the last time we hangout, two weeks later i found out he had and official new gf, he ignored me for 2 days and all of the sudden i see his fb pic with a new girl... he had never done that before, so it totally hit me that it was serious, but I can't help but wonder, when this happened? was he already seeing this girl? or he magicly fall in love in 2 weeks? I mean it could be but knowing as i know him I doubt it... I know it now matter, but I can't help wanting to know how things happened. I didn't deserve an explanation, nothing, it broke and shattered my heart.... and I hate having the feeling that there's more coming... He has always being the one who contacts me first, and I wonder of he would do it again, however, he has ultimately done everything in his power so I can let him go, and I'm doing it, but I hate not having a closure...

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