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writes:i posted this question a week ago and havent got any replies, so i am trying againdear helpful people :)this is a long story, im confused where i stand.i met this guy at a club, and we got on really well. we agreed to go to the next one a week later and we just wandered outside for most of the night and talked endlessly. he lives around 20-30 miles from me.understandably, we couldn't meet for a while, and before we did meet, we agreed that i would give him a hand job and he could do anything above the waist. i freaked out, but i talked myself around and by sunday (when we met up) i was fine about it.i totally freaked out that day, i told him i just wasnt ready to take things that far, i totally lost my confidence and bottled it. now i miss him so much, but im worried he doesnt feel the same. he has made no effort to contact me, wont talk to me willingly and when i try to talk to him online, he just logs off.i miss him so much, i think im falling for him, i really do. what hurts the most is that he doesnt seem to want to start a relationship with me. that leads me to think he obviously cant love/miss me because otherwise he would go out with me regardless. im not arguing with his opinion, because i want to keep him happy, but its making me so sad, because i know we are more than friends, because we have kissed etc.i have no idea what to do. he is reluctant to meet up with me. he told me we would meet in half term, but now we cant, he has 'too much revising', 'too many house parties' and a '1 week holiday'. i know he might be busy/live far away etc, but i would clear everything and put him first, but he wont do the same. he has also cancelled on me last minute on several occasions.someone help me, i dont know what to do. im confused where i stand, should i move on? is he worth it? do i tell him how i feel, ignore him?sorry for the length, please help me :'(
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (24 May 2011):
 yes, definitely move on i can tell he is not into you at all. fill your time with other things and soon enough you will stop thinking about him i promise! he wanted to use you to get a handjob that's all. kissing does not mean he loves you or even particularly likes you. learn from this experience - some people are just users and i am glad you didn't give him what he wanted. i hope you meet someone nice in the future, don't waste your time and your feelings on guys like him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2011): This is going to sound mean and im sorry to have to be the one to tell you this. You were a booty call. He never wanted a relationship. You werent more than friends because you werent even friends. True friends dont just stop talking to each other. He just thought hed be able to get some. Do yourself a favor and move on. You dont need him if hes going to treat you like that any way. Go try to meet some nice guys. Good luck. Im sorry you had to experience that.
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