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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. I go to church and he does to. I do believe that god sometimes take a man and a woman away from each other to work on each one in their separate corner.We had problems like any other couples had. It's been hard for me because I do miss him. I finally seen him again and I told him how I felt and that I still had feelings for him. He told me that he still had feelings for me and misses me. When we are in church, he will do little things like touch my hair, complement on how nice I look and he winks his eyes alot at me. Do you think that he still has feelings for me and want to get back with me? He called me and I didn't answer the phone. Do you think that was a good idea? At first he didn't want to talk to me, but now that I'm ignoring him it seems like he's ready to talk. When do you know when a man deserves a second chance because it wasn't no cheating in our relationship?
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reader, RunsWithScissors +, writes (22 May 2008):
It all depends on what he did to cause you to break up with him. If he cheated, tore you down emotionally, or disrespected you then I'd say he doesn't deserve another chance. If it wasn't anything like that then perhaps you can try again. I think you're also beyond the age of playing games and sitting and wondering "does he like me or doesn't he" that's more like a teenager would do...simply talk to him and ask him if he'd like to give the relationship another try. There's no reason for you both to not be direct with each other. If he says no, you're a grown woman and can accept that and move on. If he says yes, then make sure you have your boundaries firmly in place and tell him what you will and will not put up with. You don't have to put up with anyone crossing your boundaries and it is your responsibility to outline those boundaries to the other person. And if he ever crosses them you'll know he didn't take you seriously and does not deserve another chance.
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