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writes:Women can wear men's clothes then why can't men wear women's clothes?like saree and salwars and all? why is there not support for men to wear women's clothes?I am a 15 year old , almost 16 year old male and i love cross dressing since i was younger But no 1 knows this.Whenever I get to I take my Mum's salwar or a saree,and quietly go in the bathroom and wear it I'm an expert in wearing a saree.i wear a bra(with artificial breasts),blouse and then saree ts a heavenly feeling for meI lv to wear a bra and saree with matching blousePlease suggest something guys i want to wear it openlywhom shud i tel this, plZzz and soonI am not a gay or homosexualI am just a crossdresser and nothng is wrong with itplzzzz help me :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 nope there is nothing wrong with you. Sadly society is not going to accept you publically cross dressing...
and since you live with mum and dad you can't do it at home...
my bf dresses up at home now and then... complete with high heels... it's fun to watch him do it.
I have no advice on how you can dress publicaly but I wanted you to know you are not all that unusual or alone with this... it's just sadly still one of those deep secrets folks keep. just remember 50 years ago it was not cool to be homosexual publicaly either and folks had to keep that a secret too.
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 October 2011):
 There are many men who dress as women as it suits who they are. But often they do keep it a secret for a very long time. It takes a lot of inner confidence to handle the comments of people who are threatened or mis-informed about a Cross Dresser, their motivations and their chosen lifestyle.
At this stage you are still at school, I suspect. While still at school would represent a very challenging time to try to start Cross Dressing openly. Asking you to please be patient a little longer is a big ask. But I think the stronger you are emotionally then the better you will cope with the big change you are contemplating.
There are things you can consider already exploring. To better support you for the future ahead. Such as Very confidential counselling sessions with a good diplomatic counsellor with lots of Empathy, kindness and consideration, and who does not aim to "change" you but is instead a professional who aims to "support you" . Such counselling may help you reconcile what you want to do and what is possible.
I would suggest that you discover more about your chosen path of Cross dressing before you consider making the bigger move of openly Cross dressing. I would not recommend doing so until you have reach an age above 18 and even then not until you have put in place some supports - like counselling and discovering more about Cross Dressing men who are not and do not seek to be gay, as you have already identified as not being gay.
Some men marry a woman who is more understanding and the man may choose to dress up at home in front of his wife. This requires an exceptional partner as it might threaten the wife. This is where counselling is essential. If the man desires to continue to be a hetrosexual cross dresser and the wife can handle this situation then the relationship can work.
In most western countries it is not an offence for a man to dress as a woman. But in non-western countries it can be am offence. And it may be too young for your to deal with openly dressing as a woman. I do not know how tolerant your family are likely to be, only you know that. If you are uncertain then seek out more information on how Cross Dressing is treated in other countries as well as how it is treated in your country.
In some countries people try to label Cross Dressing as an illness. I do not perceive it as such. And some people seek to recommend psychiatric counselling. I am not sure if that suits you unless you have another medical issue that could be helped if you discussed your situation with a psychiatrist.
But if you are completely at peace with your decision and you have already been trying to find opportunities to Cross Dress for many years then you only need support and maybe some counselling to deal with some of the challenges you may face when Cross Dressing openly, if that is your choice in a few years time.
But do keep in mind that there are some countries where it will never be possible. While there are other countries where other people will be less judgmental and more accepting of your chosen lifestyle.
Here are some links from various countries that may give you some different perspectives on Cross Dressing. I do not judge the content of the sites below. I also neither agree nor disagree with the content herein. I post it only as it may help you to realise that the world has more cross dressing men, who are hetrosexual, and not gay and do enjoy dressing as a woman. There are also women who are born as women and enjoy dressing as a man.
Please consider reading the content in the links below. I think some of it may help you to realise that Cross Dressing where men dress as woman DOES happen all over the world. And just like real life some Cross dressing men are hetrosexual and some are gay and some may be bi-sexual.
You have already made it clear that you are hetrosexual.
Here are the links, below, for you:
http://toselfbetrue.com/transgender/index.html
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/home/sunday-toi/Cross-dressing-for-the-Goddess/articleshow/2929677.cms
http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/i-married-a-cross-dresser/
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sexandrelationships/transvesticism.htm
http://www.gendercentre.org.au/cross_dressing_information.htm
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