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writes:When a guy is in a serious relationship but watches porn and masturbates every day does that mean he is sick and tired of his girl, even though he tells her how much he loves her everyday?
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reader, Kensamare +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Just because he is watching alot of porn it doesn't mean he is tired of you or sick in any way. Almost everyone masturbates, seeing as it is a normal and healthy part of your life. Everyday might be quite alot, but it doesn't necessarily make him sick. Most times I have heard a friend ask me this same question, they were slightly insecure with some points of their relationship. If it really bothers you question him about it.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (19 July 2007):
All good, healthy relationships have one thing in common and that is taking care of each other's physical and sexual needs. And any, and all, things, that take away from this togetherness will adversely affect the whole relationship. Men's genital-sexual-make-up wasn't designed to watch porn and to engage in masturbation every day. And still give a woman the loving, caring attention that is a must to fulfill her phyisical and emotional needs. and I can see that you are getting the short end of the stick in your relationship. Lip-Love and Heart-Love, do you know the difference between them? So to be quite blunt, If there isn't anything more going on than those lame, "I love you's". It is Lip-Love. And that is what I see going on in your relationship at this time. The Heart-Love, I am talking about,is when his genitals do the talking in the bedroom There is nothing wrong with either a man or a woman masturbating within, or outside,a relationship, In fact there are times when the two of you need to engage in mutual masturbation,to teach the other how you each want your genitals stimulated,pleasured. Lots of men have erection problems during intercourse, by erection problems, I mean a man's ability to get an erection, get it into the vagina and then keep it firmed-up long enough to bring her to an orgasm. You are the one to answer any erection problems that may, or may not, be taking place when the you two are having sex. Masturbation is no threat to a male's ego, and lots of us men will revert back to a safe genital area,our own genitals, not a woman's genitals. Where we often have erection failures. As I see it, You don't have a problem, He does. And his is the problem of Porn-Addiction. And most men do not engage in everyday masturbation ,as in his case. Men who engage in excessive, self-masturbation, it is called self-abuse. And if he cannot change. You will need to be move out of that relationship. Do hope that this has been helpfull, and I do hope that both of you get it all sorted out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): no, but he may have a problem. i fell in love w/ someone only to find he has a porn and coke issue. he loves to masturbate to porn and shoot coke, and rarely do we have sober sex. i suggest you both discuss it, see what you can do. it will bring you closer together, or you may find he's not the guy you thought he was. give him a chance, but you deserve honesty.
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