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writes:what should i do to make my boyfriend sweet to me? i know it is not his character... but i just want him to be affectionate to me... Reply to this Question
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reader, a gf +, writes (4 September 2007):
a gf is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontenk u. I appreciate ur response & will consider it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): I think that while you can't change people, you can train their behaviour.
It's not in our nature to drive a car, but we learn & train & become proficient drivers, so really -- how much more difficult can it be to train someone to hold your hand??
A couple of things you can do ... and it really does come down to you!
1] Let him know that affection is important to you -- that while you know he cares, you'd like him to show it.
[Communicate with him]
2] Be specific with what you'd like him to do - don't expect him to guess or mind-read. For example, tell him that you'd like him to hold your hand when you go out, that you'd like a hug & kiss when he walks in.
[Be specific]
3] As women, the BEST thing a man can do for us women is show us that he's thinking about us. They can do this in little ways -- by sending an sms in the middle of the day saying "hi, thinking about you. x." or something similar; by buying flowers for no reason; by seeing your favourite chocolate bar at the shop & grabbing it for you.
Train him -- if you have to, set him reminders in his mobile phone so that initially he has to be reminded, but eventually, it'll become easier for him to start doing things off his own back.
Basically, YOU have to let HIM know what you want ... be clear, be specific, help him to be the man he will be happy to become because a man with a happy girlfriend is a very happy man indeed ... the happier he makes you by being sweet & affectionate, the more romantic & intimate you feel towards & you know where that leads... it's one big happy upward cycle ;)
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reader, kenny  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 Unfortunately we can't change people, and further more we should not try either, we are what we are. Respect him for who he is, what was the quality that you saw in him that made you want to date him?. Focus on his good points, rather than dwelling on why he is not sweet to you.
You could also arrange something romantic for the pair of you to do, like a weekend away, a candlelit dinner, an evening walk, doing this may bring out abit of affection in him, its worth a try.
Good luck x
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