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writes:I'm in my late 20s and I have a problem. I have a fiance and he stresses me out a lot and I've been engaged for 4 years going on 5, I don't know why I don't want to get married yet, the thing is I've fallen in love with someone else who lives nearer my home. He gives me butterflies and makes me feel things I've never felt before even with my fiance! I went abroad for the second time to come to London in the summer and I met this OTHER guy, but I'm not in love with him, he's just like my friend. To cut a long story short I need to know what to do, I know I need to tell someone the truth. Help me!
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reader, Maame Yaa  +, writes (19 September 2007):
All that I will say is you have to follow your heart, although you have been in long term relationship with your fiance he might not be your husband so I suggest if you know the new boy is ok for you go on with him and who knows.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 If you are having second thoughts, and need to ask other people what to do, you need to re-think why you would consider marrying your fiance. Long engagements are hard, but marriages last much longer. Your heart is telling you to reconsider your first choice. Listen to it. There is no "correct" age to marry, you marry when it feels right to you.
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reader, nuttyp6  +, writes (2 September 2007):
Hello/First of all you need to think who do you LOVE. If you prefer this other guy you need to tell your partner this. If you think as you said your just friends but he makes you feel different you need explain this to both people.Hope this helps X
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): Well, firstly you have to cinsider wheather you actually 'love' this other guy or not because it could just be that you have a crush on him because of what you and your other half are missing out on. Secondly, you have to remind yourself of what you fell in love for with your current partner. often you forget what you fell for and you replace that with something you wish you could have. however, the most important thing in here is that you talk to your current partner about how you feel because at the end of the day a relationship is based on trust n honesty. and the way you communicate with eachother and even if after all that you feel you don't love him anymore then i suggest you do whats right before its too late.However, out of all this is ow YOU feel not someone else go with your heart.
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