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writes:your opinion on dating a guy 19yrs older then me. hes never been married has no kids. im 27 hes 46. im lonely so is he and i like him.i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life havent had a bf for 8yrs. Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Age is just a number. As long as you aren't a teenager (which you're not) and you both have a lot in common then there is nothing wrong with it. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Does he make you laugh? Does he make you feel special? Does time fly when you're with him? Do you always have loads to talk about? If you can say yes to all of the above then I say go for it! My partner was 24 years older than I was and I loved him dearly until he died very suddenly last year. Don't get sucked in by propriety of society! If YOU and him get along then forget about what others think. I wish you both all the best for the future. I say GO FOR IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your reply! i am looking forward to dating this guy you never know this might just be the best decision i ever made. i am letting my hair and guard down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Dating someone older than you is sometimes a tricky subject, expecially because 27 years old is a very different age to 46. But if you want the same things, have decent conversations and desire and genuinely like each other than do what feels best. But remember that being with some because your lonely and don't want to be lonely for the rest of your life isn't always a good reason. It prevents you from finding that person that your completely in sync with. Your 27 and hardly over the hill. At 46 he IS over the hill, lol. Do you have confidence issues? I ask because when we decide to settle for something less than what we want, this indicates that we feel less about ourselves and feel that we don't deserve more. Everyone deserves more. Don't sell yourself short.
Try getting out there with people in your age group more. Try making some more friends and see if through them you meet someone new.
But love isn't about age. If you can grow to love this man and find yourself genuinely happy with him, than who cares?
Good Luck :)
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reader, Alana123  +, writes (16 October 2008):
It's just dating right?Before I was married I had dated men about 12-15 years older than myself. Beyond the age thing I think you need to decide early on and get his input on the biggies - kids, marriage, etc. As for you being 27 and worried on being alone the rest of your life...do you expect to die soon? I say just go on some dates and see how it goes. You're either a fit or not. As for no other bf's - maybe you just need to get out more, live a little, let your hair down.Good luck and happy dating!
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