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writes:I have been going out with this girl for a while now and have been enjoying every moment we are together. Ever since we officially became boyfriend and girlfriend, she has been shooting me down. For instance, I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said, "I don't know I might be busy." I have no problem with that but she never attempts to find out. She says "I'll check" and then never replies. Am I at all selfish? What do I do? Thanks for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (31 December 2012):
 When I was your age, I would act this way to my boyfriend when I wanted him to dump me...because I didn't want that on me. I'd feel too guilty. Or it's because I'm getting ready to dump him.
I don't believe it's anything you're doing wrong, it sounds as if she's finding any old reason to scold you. I'd back off of her for a couple of days and let her talk to you when she calms down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): She is not crazy over you. The best you can do is to give her space.
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 It sounds like she is trying to avoid the relationship. Sounds like she wanted the relationship now she has it she doesn't want it.But she is finding it too hard to tell you and hoping you'll find out on your own or maybe that you'll call it off so she doesn't seem like the bad guy.either way you need to talk to her find out what is the deal this isn't how a relationship should be you should be able to make time for each other, if she isn't committed then she certainly isn't the girl for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): When I was 17, I had a boyfriend who acted similar to how your girlfriend is acting. I would call him to hang out, and he would always have an excuse why he couldn't. Usually, he said he was busy, other times he said he was too broke. Yet for being so busy, he always had time to answer his phone. The "relationship" only lasted 2 months before he broke up with me using yet another lame excuse. The reason I put relationship in quotes is because we only ever hung out once, and even then one of his friends was there.
Anyway, I would just end it. It sounds to me she just doesn't like you that much. There will be plenty of other girls that would love to spend time with you, so don't keep wasting your time on her.
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