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writes:Okay I need some advice about my cousin,,shes driving me insane.My cousin is 14,I realise this makes her very confused and emotional,Im 17 and I look after her really well and I listen whenever she needs someone to talk to.I really care about her and I no how much she truly cares about me,but that doesn't eliminate the fact that shes real little cow,especially to me naturally I suppose since I am the only other teenage girl at home.Theres always been this jealousy thing with her,she has to be jealous of everyone.In the last year or so shes become very big around the front,if you no what I meen shes a c-d .She will not be quiet about how her boobs are bigger then her mums(there not,not even close)and how her big sisters also very heavy round the front say she should be proud,my cousin puts on this dignified stance and declares..and I am!Then she makes it the number one que in every conversation..and I'm like..yea do we have to talk about tits 24/7? Her big sisters kind of think its a bit of a joke that the women in my family have flat chests,I'm the only one to grow a pair yet,but still they make a point of comparing my average sized chest(around a b-c ) to there little sisters pair.Just for the record.When did chest size become an issue in family? What the hell you no? Like havent they noticed how I do everything I can to keept mine looking flat-Im kind of (trans),and they try to make me ashamed,i would hate to have bigger ones then I already do.My sister and my mother were incredibly bitchy to me and excluded me from everything when I started to develop breasts.So when I was about 12 I considered finding a way to cut them off,very confusing time at 12 years.I've never been comfortable with my breats.I'm happy my cousin is proud of hers but I'm sick of being compared and made out to be inferier.Its really the most ridiculous thing but i'm not liking there attitude in regrds to my family.What can I say,like how can I make it clear that it's not okay.They will deny anything Ive said about them so..i dont no,does anyone hve a clue how to put these people straight.Its hard to ignore insults every single day,and I'm not going to do nothing.Oh yea and If your a hater dont bother replying.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 I'm still having trouble discerning the real problem here, but from your "pride and glory" comment, I'm led to believe you're referring to the fact that you get picked on for having smaller breasts than your family. Ultimately, you have the option of implants, if you want to stay around them. While you love your family, but don't like the extended ones, nobody is standing up for you it seems. Do your parents know how you're feeling? If your family is worth your hardship (which you are saying they are) they will stand up for you and pass along that all this focus on your breast size is immature and unwanted.
Another option might be to find something that this cousin or her family is insecure about and start making jokes about it relentlessly.
I still think your best option is cutting ties with them. While you don't have to cut ties with your immediate family, I don't see the harm in cutting out the extended ones. This may be easier said than done I do realize.
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reader, kanja +, writes (24 July 2010):
kanja is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis whole problem is a "problem" because I love my family,my extended family are unkind to my "close" family..that's why I need some advice,preferably some that doesn't involve as Dirtball..suggested-getting out of the mess-aka..leaving my family.And the question was how can i get around this..And I'd just like to point out that any guy would react alot worse then I the drama queen,if there pride and glory were the family joke.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 July 2010):
What was the question in that mess? How do you put them straight if they won't listen? You don't waste your time because it won't do any good anyway. You get out of this mess at the earliest you can and don't look back. If you love your family on some level, then reach out down the road. Honestly though you sound like a bit of a drama queen too, sounds like that runs in the family.
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