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* am batman
writes:I really don't know what's wrong with me and i hate what i am doing.I am 27 and i have always been a ladies man, to say. I don't know what my problem is. I have always enjoyed going out and meeting girls in bars and having fun. I am a good looking guy and good with talking so it's always been quite easy for me.This past year i have met 2 lovely girls and i was smitten. I gave up the single life and spent my time with them, meeting their families etc and i am happy...but then i don't know what happens, i start to look elsewhere and end up meeting other girls behind their backs.I have been with my current girlfriend for 4 months and i do love her, she is wonderful. She is away this week with work and i thought i would just have some me time. But last night i ended up going out on a date with a girl i met on-line and the sad thing is, i didn't feel guilty. I do want to be with my gf but i guess i love the buzz and excitement from a new date. I am 27 now and this always happens with me - im very smitten but i get bored easy. I need to grow up but i don't understand what's wrong with me :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): Sorry, I do not agree with the concept of the 'right girl' that changes a man. It does not happen miraculously. You yourself have to change first to really be in a relationship. So I agree with people who said you are not ready to settle down yet. Take some time to look into yourself and what you really want but be honest with women you get involved with.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (29 August 2012):
 If you was with a woman who is right for you, who you love, then you would nor want to cheat. You wouldnt even think about wanting to meet girls online.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 August 2012):
 Hi
Just finish with your girlfriend and be honest,tell her your just not ready to settle in a relationship. IF you were really in love with her you wouldn't even consider cheating.
As long as your not hurting anyone you could date a different girl every night,for the next 20-30 years..theres no Law saying you have to settle down is there? Just don't string good people along, thats the only thing that will let you down
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 I agree. There is nothing wrong with preferring the excitement of meeting and dating new people. As long as you're up front about it and treat others the way you want them to treat you.
You don't have to settle down, marry and have children now or ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): You obviously haven't met the girl who will totally consume your thoughts yet. Maybe you never will. There is, in time, the thought of self-regulation - not acting on your impulses knowing you may lose something special if you take a risk and stray. You will probably always have an 'eye for the ladies', but don't let it spoil your chances of making a good solid relationship with a girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): There is nothing wrong with this unless you start toying with their emotions.
Women are want to be emotional. It's their nature and their prerogative. Men can't help that.
But you don't have to lead them on and you don't have to lie to them.
Don't imply there is a relationship when there is not.
Don't exaggerate your expectations of being faithful to them.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (29 August 2012):
 You need to come clean with your girlfriend too and apologise. I agree that you're just not ready to settle down yet.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 Exactly right DoubleM, just not ready to settle down, nothing wrong about that. Enjoy yourself but be honest with the women you date and don't mislead them into thinking you are committed to the relationship. You can have fun but don't be an ass about it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 August 2012):
 You are simply not ready to settle down.
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