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*pendy
writes:What is wrong with me? am I weird? is it normal?My ex boyfriend and I broke up 6months and I've not been with anyone else since. I had a lot of guys come my way but they all wanted sex, but I can't have casual sex, I've got to be in love and have a strong feelings for a guy to even kiss him. and I don't masturbate either.I really like this guy am getting to know. and he asked me when was the last time I got with a guy and I told him the truth. I didn't want to, but he made me tell him. and I don't think he believes me. He says is hard to believe that. Am I weird that I can go for so long without sex and not touch myself and got be in love to have sex? I just don't feel like sex.Thanks.. Am 21..x
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 You are not weird. They're many people who feel and have experienced the same thing you are. It's great that you don't let guys take you for a one night stand. Keep doing what you're doing and the right guy will find nothing wrong with the way you are and how you feel about sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): I don't think thats weird at all... I think its right that you dont want to have sex until your in a steady relationship. Any guy who doesnt think that is obviously not worth your love or time. And its not weird you can go for ages without sex either, a lot of people can. I think your doing the right thing just waiting for the right guy- a lot of women will just sleep with anyone, and thats not really something that you would want to become, your more respected if you remain dignified, thats not me saying become celibate or whatever, its saying that you are absolutly right to wait :) Hope this helps :)
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Nothing weird about that. It's your body and you know what's right for you. Some people do stuff everyday - some people can go for weeks, months or longer without doing anything.
If the bloke asked you to tell him something and he still doesn't believe you, tell him to get lost!! You know the truth and that's all that matters. Doesn't matter what other people think.
If he cares for you, he will wait patiently for you to be ready before you take the relationship to the next step. Don't let anybody pressure you into sleeping with them just because they say it's the normal thing to do and you're being weird.
Hope this helps.
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reader, N91 +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Not at all, there will be millions of people the same as you.
You should be proud of yourself that you see sex as an intimate experience between two people who love each other and not just a casual act.
Hope this helps x
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