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writes: My husband got a new job, and we moved to this new town and he started his new job. He was telling me how great this was going to be and that I did not need to work anymore. I stayed home and took care of our child, he ended up cheating on me and now wants a divorce and custody of our child. Has this happened to anyone else, need to hear some stories please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): My brother did it to his first wife. He won the award for supreme asshole in my family for this generation...you aren't his second wife are you?
However, anything short of joint custody is difficult to attain short of a significant and ongoing drug use history or mental illness in one of the parents.
My brother tried to make his wife out as a bad mother, when he was the one who cheated, etc. It didn't work.
Every situation is different. Cheating, at least in some states, or jurisdictions, doesn't really count as a mark against someone. Although it apparently does in others.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 August 2011):
Wow, I mean just wow that's horrible. You need to get yourself a lawyer. It's highly unlikely a court would award sole custody to someone other than the main care provider as well as someone who ended the marriage by cheating. But you do need to get yourself a lawyer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): Unless the mother is an alcoholic, drug user or incompetent; she has more rights in divorce court than the father. Child always goes with the mother, although there would be shared custody. Sounds like your husband is one big douch! Take him for all he has, as you were a homemaker for the family, you will get alimony. Make sure the court also knows he CHEATED...extra points for you.
Sounds like this man has been controlling and selfish. He's going to be very surprised when he sees just how much the courts favor the mother/wife. Get a great lawyer and get him where it hurts!
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