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writes: So I really like this guy (too much!) and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. But sometimes he'll say things (in a text) that maybe I take too seriously an overreact because I'm just a girl? Or is it because he doesn't know what to say and it comes across as mean? There's two examples of this.. One is he said "have fun breathing" like randomly.. and then (this was a different day) I was like "hm I'm so bored what should I do?" and he said "cry!" does he even like me at all!? :( why do guys have to be so confusing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 some folks are just NOT good at texting
I once sent my boyfriend a text that said "is having obscene thoughts about you good or bad?" and he said "bad"
and I was hurt but I realized he didn't get what I was saying.
over and over I see texting as the ruin of relationships....
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (4 December 2011):
 It's incredibly sexist and insulting that you seriously believe women as a whole are more prone to emotional outbursts than men are. Men are equally capable of being emotive, but it's accepted as "okay" for a man to show negative emotions in today's culture. Stop stereotyping...it's misogynistic.
Also, tell him that you don't like it when he's being sarcastic. Ask him to tone it down. Ask him every time he does it. If he can't manage it, then don't talk to him anymore. If you can't put up with his sarcasm and he can't change, you two are not compatible friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): Thats guy talk. He says the nice stuff to get the sex chat. Give up the ghost and move on.Sucks but its how it is. A guy interested would put forth more effort with words that held more weight than those fluff words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): Hey,All your other answers are from girls, and to put it bluntly, all their answers are wrong. I do agree you should just talk it out. Remember, it is so hard to convey tone in a text. For example, I'm a very sarcastic person, and sometimes when I say sarcastic things in a text it can come across as mean. It could just be a simialr thing with you. And btw, don't text him telling him you're bored, because then you sound boring, we do notice stuff like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): Well yes, sorry I forgot to add why I think he likes me. He always says "you're such a cutiepie and sooo fun to talk to" And then he'll say some sexual things. The first time we started talking, he was like "we'll always talk forever.." It's just so hard to stop talking to a guy when you really like him :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): I would stop texting him. No point as he has no real interest in you. If he did, he would put forth effort to say so.
He could have dry humour but even so, the message is clear.
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (3 December 2011):
 I wouldn't necessarily interpret those texts as mean, but definitely odd. Don't automatically take it the wrong way, but ask him to explain himself. I think maybe he was just being random, but then again... I don't know. You'd better talk it out. Does he do/say other rude things to you to make you think these were intended to be mean?
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