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anonymous
writes:So i am wondering if my ex has feelings for me? I am not wanting to act on it if he does, i am in love with my current boyfriend and i do not want to break up with him, i am just curious. So just to be clear i am not going to cheat. Okay so me and this guy dated two years ago. I was going out with his friend and we became really good friends and after i got out of that relationship we started dating. It lasted less than a month. During the relationship,i knew i was just second choice and i was shy. He dumped me but we stayed friends. We continued to hang out and we kissed a few times. We would flirt quite alot, but i always though he prefered a girl who wouldn't date him. After another relationship i then met my current boyfriend ( who i've been with for nearly a year and a half. Let's call him R) and to begin with my and my ex (lets call him J ) stayed friends. So J never liked R and kind of vice versa so i stopped being friends with him. For the first few months he would still talk to me but slowly we just stopped talking, which i was okay with as he was becoming very mean.So a couple of weeks ago J messaged me on fb, we talked for a little bit about school then he was like 'oh i better go don't want to get in trouble' (referring to my bf) A week later it was my friends leaving party and he turned up. He was distant with me to start with but then after a bit he started chatting to me. He kept trying to touch me (not like that just in little ways)and hug me. We then started doing confessions. We all confessed stuff like crushes we had when we were younger and that, he was quiet until it was his turn then he confessed that he regretted dumping me. I was kind of shocked, i'm not sure what he meant.He then left. After that he hardly looked at me and said mean things behind my back. I was chatting to my friend about it and she told me that a couple of months ago he said that if i wasn't with R he would still be with me. He's been weird with me for a while now but keeps being really mean. He flirts with every other girl (even ones with boyfriends) but now he totally ignores me. He was with his friendsand i was with mine and we were just hanging out then him and his best friend started slagging me off to my best boy mate ( they were whispering, my mate told me this later) then just left. I texted saying sorry but he just said cba with this s**t.' Everyone thinks he fancies this girl but he denies it now but he used to admit it.I have no idea what's going on with him and i would just like to know. Sorry that it's long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): Thanks for your answer. I get the idea that you think i'm somewhat interested in him, i am not at all. I'm just one of those people who likes to know excactly what is going on. i love my boyfriend he is not second best at all. I'm not wanting to 'reconnect' i was just curious i didn't understand his behaviour and saw no harm in just asking. Thanks for your answer though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): You that don't fancy him / want to be with him.. Ooe gee please we did not come down the Clyde in a banana boat..
Look he throws you a bone and then watches you chase your tail.. You have a bf who must on the whole treat you quite well? An a donkey of an ex who makes a statement declaring some unrequited love and then is a meanie to you calling you names, trashing you to friends ..look you were with him for less than a month and in my opinion had a lucky escape, you don't know him.. The honeymoon period for couple normal runs for months both being on their best behaviour.. And you were with him less than a month, you know nothing, trust me on this, you barely scrapped the surface.
If he after you it 1. To see if you'll come running 2. A filler gap until better comes along and 3. A big ego boost..
You'd be nuts if you do try and reconnect with this meanie who should not warrant any of your attention or even thoughts..
Concentrate on your bf, before he realises maybe he's second best and dumps your then very sorry cute butt..
Grass is not greener on the otherside, it's just grass..
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