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writes:I'm seeing this girl at the moment. We were dating last year for a month or so, when she decided to cool things off. After about 2 weeks of her being cold with me and not knowing where I stood, I called the whole thing off. A few months later, we see each other again, and she told me that she'd made a mistake and she was sorry and that she wants to start seeing me again. I'm all for second chances, plus I really liked her, so we did. My problem is that, I am a communicator, and she isn't. She won't open up to me, but expects me to wait for her without any commitment and any promise of seeing her again. We haven't slept together yet, despite her telling me that she's slept with people she's known for less time. But my friend suggested to me tonight that she may be a virign. And it all adds up, that she's scared that I'm going to sleep with her then ditch her, and maybe thats why she won't commit.I don't know if it's true, but if it is, and the more I think about it, the more it adds up. And if it is true, then I don't mind at all. It's not like I'll judge her for it, and I'd be happy to go at a slow pace as long as I knew where I stood. I mean, she says one thing and does another. Obviously I can't ask if she is a virgin and if this is an issue, and even if I did, there's no guarantee I'd get a true answer. What do you think is the best way to find out where I stand? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Talk to her as honestly as you can about how you feel. Tell her that because she doesn't let you know how she feels, you are left guessing and you think she wants to take things slow. Then ask her if you are on the right track.
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reader, Hayori18 +, writes (4 March 2011):
Well this one is kinda hard to answer. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and every time he asks me how much I love him I say more than anyone or anything in the world and if not how much I love him then he asks how much he means to me I say more than he will ever know. Talk to hwer and ask her how much you really mean to her. Guys think with their penis more than their head show her you care for her herself not her vagina and sex all the time. Show her she is very special to you. But firstly find out how important you are to her. But before you ask her that question, sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you like to communicate and that you BOTH need to talk about things. This is a major cornerstone in a relationship. It will take time for her to open up and start talking with you but don't give up and be persistant. Also show her that you aren't like other guys. Think differently. Don't even try to sleep with her. Just be there for her and show her that she is the world to you! Make her feel like the princess every little girl wants to be. It took me a while to talk to my byfriend but I am doing it and it is great! We both are able to talk to each other rationally and our relationship has blossomed!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Have you tried telling her how important communication is to you and why?
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reader, Hayori18 +, writes (4 March 2011):
Ask her how much u mean to her. I tell my boyfriend I love him more than anyone or anything in the world and before saying I loved him I told him he means more to me than he knows because I wanted him to say he loves me first. Have u told her u love her? Do u love her? If so then maybe u should tell her u love her.
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