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writes:I have a thing for this guy, but he's also my friend. I'm not sure why i do this, but I have a habit of hugging him a lot. We see each other a lot so thats quite a bit of hugging. The other thing is that they aren't short I hug him for a really long time. The first few times I was really cold and when I hugged him he was warm and I wouldn't let go for a long time. I liked how he felt so I kept holding on to him. I liked everything about his feeling it felt great. Today when I was hugged him he stopped hugging back.I'm not really sure why but it was a bit different today. I thought he wasn't hugging back because he was starting to feel like things were weird but he'd let me hug him and his body language it seemed comfortable. He'd pat me on the back when people weren't looking. I'd put my head on his shoulder or sometimes on his chest and he'd just stand there letting me be comfortable there which is why I like putting my head on him. Anytime I want a hug he gives me a hug. When people are watching I can tell its awkward for him.Today he asked me if things were awkward for me and I said no not really. When we were starting class he said I can't hug you forever and I wouldn't let go and he pulled me off today but he let me hug him after class but I decided to be quick because I wanted to go home. My main question is does he let me hug him because we are friends? I like him a lot more than that and he's older than me and is graduating in June and I'm not sure when'll I'll see him again. He's really special and I feel he's important to me. If I tell him that I like him I feel that will ruin things between us and well I don't want that to be the last thing we remember about each other. I think about him a lot and I want to tell him how I feel before we never see each other again. Reply to this Question
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (6 March 2011):
Good luck! I hope u tell him soon :)
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reader, ??22475 +, writes (5 March 2011):
??22475 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay well I'll try to find the courage to tell him but i dunno how long it will take
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (5 March 2011):
As i said in my first post: don't miss your chance and tell him what feelings you have for him.
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reader, ??22475 +, writes (5 March 2011):
??22475 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts funny because about a month ago I asked told him that if he got accepted into Harvard and left that I'd miss him a lot. He said he'd talk to me on skype everyday and call me as much as he can so I don't think that we'll forget about each other that soon. Today I told him that I was quitting choir and he seemed a little upset with my decision. I really do enjoy his company but what would be the point in staying if he were just to leave anyways? I just spoke to him right now and he just agreed to help me with my birthday party tomorrow. Sometimes he has this I'm so smart attitude and he really doesn't know that he's got it on facebook but hes really nice. He used to hit me playfully a lot but sometimes he just took it too the extreme so i told him to stop so from now on its been hugging. My thoughts are sometimes i think i should tell him and others i dont
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): But if he is going away anyway, how would you maintain a relationship with one another?Could you handle not saying something and just leaving one-another with these close memories? Until the next time you'll meet, where you could reminice fondly?I believe you would meet again as, personally, I don't believe you want to completely wipe one another out of each other's lives. What sort of relationship would you be expectant of? If long term, I would allow him to make the first move, in time. But don't hold out for him so attentively - live your life; if you really meant much to him, you would stray into his thoughts and he would come back to you.Do you think he really would cut off total contact with you after he moves away? Would he ask his friends, your friends, about you?
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (4 March 2011):
Look, don't let the opportunity go by because you will regret it afterwards and that might hurt a lot. Tell him he is a nice person and that you enjoy his company, and that you like him. You said you might not see him again, so there is not much you can ruin.But really, you won't be ruining anything. Asking him out won't ruin the friendship! He might say yes! Ask him for a chance, and keep flirting! He sounds like a nice guy for you! Good luck!
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