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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well, I'm just wondering if anyone can help me with this problem I have. It's a long story.When I was 15 I had this huge crush on a guy that was also a brother of one of my best friends at the time. I was (and still am) very shy and never told him or anyone else my feelings towards him. We had a lot in common- we liked a lot of the same things. More importantly, we were both outcasts and misunderstood. A couple of mutual friends hinted that he liked me but I was too shy to do anything about it- I thought they were just joking. After I left school we both went to the same college and then gradually lost contact.But I always kind of regretted not telling him how I felt. I always wondered "What if?..." I've bumped into him a couple of times briefly since then (four years later!) but haven't been able to get properly in contact with him. I know it sounds stupid but I can't stop thinking of him after all these years! It's starting to tear me apart.I've had a few boyfriends since then, but the feelings passed pretty quickly. I really want to get in contact with him but don't know how. The closest I have to contact is that I have some of his sister's details.I've realised now rejection is just part of life and would love to get back in contact, even just as friends. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I felt that way about my true first girl friend and 20 years after we broke up I got together only to find out it would end in disaster. Don't wasted your life wondering. If you want to spend time regreting things in your life regret all the things that you have not done or acomplished for yourself. Don't regret a, "What if" because the old saying of, "be careful what you ask for", may come back to bite you.
Trust me you are wasting valuable energy. If it was meant to be it would have been.
T.
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