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writes:Hi, i started to hav fellings for boys about 2 years ago and since then i cant seem to shake them from mi mind however i still lIke girls but i think i hav more feelings and sexual atraction for boys.Im 15 almost 16! Also there is one paticular boy i like ( we are good friends) but dont know how to find out if he is gay/bi! Also i havent come out yet but i know im defenetly bisexual and what is the best way to come out when your afraid wat friends/family might think? I just want some advice on it please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Dude that's awesome one of my good friends is gay he didn't come out and tell anyone for about a year or so, but he started by telling close friend(lol meh!), soon other people, then came out and told the rest of the world, and is now very happy. So what my advice fo chu is to take your time and go at your own speed, and soon enough be proud to bi, I gots me lots of friends that are and couldn't be happier :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Ok, so far, based on my own experiences, I don't think there's any surefire way to find out if your friend is gay/bi without hearing it from him.The only way you can get that out of him is by addressing it directly, with him. As hard as it is (and believe me, I'm also 15/male/bi and trying to come out), you need to tell him what you're feeling. Keep it brief if it's easier, just say "I'm bisexual". Or bring it up casually by initiating related conversation, that's how I came out to one of my friends. We were just sitting around and I asked (just randomly) him about his view on the recent gay adoption laws, and he was fine with them, so I just told him flat out that I was confused sexually. I've heard that people have come out of the closet with "Knock-knock!" "Who's there?" "Me, I'm gay".I don't think there is one easy/convenient way to get out of the closet. There will always be homophobes, but the people that you really are friends with, will see past your sexuality, and won't let that affect your friendship. Sexuality is not a person's defining attribute.I hope I'm actually helping!Good luck with your friend, and coming out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): “There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Look at me! Take me... or leave me. Look at me! Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, Look at me, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be don't try to change me to fit your mold. Look at me, If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.
When you are strong enough to love yourself and still look at me 100%, good and bad while looking at me - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you while looking at me.”
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reader, ilikequestions  +, writes (18 January 2011):
Don't rush things. You have a different side of life that is totaly normal, just not always accepted. Be confident, and smart. One thing to consider is how people accept you. Any one who is a friend and true, will always treat you the same no matter where your feelings are. You are young and approaching others with those feelings is going to hurt most of the time. (happens with the straight ones too) Don't let it get you down, just learn how to move on if necessary. Before you find the need to date and test your sexuality, talk to family, start with sister, aunt, etc, then work to a male and then parents. I have hope that nowadays, there are more open parents out there. Try youth counselling if things get tough. Good luck Kiddo I had a gay grandfather and he had to hide it for 99% of his life. He had a great large family and I learned how to be a honest, ethical family orientated man because of him. I found out 8 years after his death and it doesn't change a thing about how much respect I have for him. Just remember how far Gays have had to go to get respect over the years, and it's up to your generation to keep that respect there and strong.
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