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writes:There is a situation that, well, has been going on now for five years, but especially since last summer. The below link is the whole story to help you get a better understanding of what's going on to answer my question:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/confused-with-feelings-towards-this-guy.htmlHere's the question: I am coming home for Easter for about six days. I have already told this guy I am coming home where he replied "great" and told me when he'd be off.I think it is beneficial for both of us to have an honest, face-to-face talk about what is going on between "us." All this flirting and his hot/cold demeanor is very confusing. I admit I really, really like him but something is pulling me back. It's not the age difference as the shock is over once I found out his age. I know he's a former teacher so he can't get into trouble, but still. He is extremely quiet, shy and sensitive (like me) and just saying "so what's going on between you and me" may make him even more scared and deeper into his shell and I'll never have any answers. I'm thinking of asking him if he'd like a dinner and a movie type of thing (or at least a movie) where the movie can (hopefully) be held at his house so he can be as comfortable as possible. What do you think? Please help me as I really want to get this elephant out of the room (or whatever that term is) so that there is no tension or awkardness between us and we know what each of us think of the other person. Because this unknowing is literally driving me crazy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): ok well you have nothing to loose, except some dignity. If you are convinced.
But its very hard to remain friends if it doesn't work. its all about risk.
Good luck,
Hugs Star.x.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (7 March 2009):
MonksDaBomb is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, if we go to his house, he does have a dog LOL!
Thanks, Star. I guess I just have to suck it up and hope I have some courage as this is definitely out of my comfort zone. And this will also be the first time we've seen each other since that heavy flirting session back at Christmas, so if he remembers that as vividly as I do, this could get interesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): to get an elephant out of the room suggest using bananas(lots) or 1 mouse, whichever is more convenient to find.
i think you are more worried about everything else- you fancy him but feel its wrong. the age difference is huge, nearly twice your age. That's a lot of difference. But if the feelings there, go for it and dam the consequences, trust your judgement, you have written well thought out questions and a good strategy.
get him alone and talk to him - just say you are really pleased to see him, really pleased.
Hugs,Star.x
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